i want to ask u something which has become my life. is falling in love wid guy is a sin?? if it is not then y parents put hurdles in the way of their marriage? i love someone desperately and our relation is of about 6 years . he was studying earlier but now he has completed his engineering and doing job. i told my father nd family about our relation 3 years ago and i said that we want to marry. my father first totally refused to the purposal. then i conveinced him anyhow... he said ok i agree but there are some demands by me that ur guy and his family have to fulfill.and the demands were that they will register a brand new home or plot for u before marriage. and the city in which guy is living he should transfer himself frm there to anyother city.and the third one that guy should reduce his weight and become smart. then i will allow u to get marry with him. now the problem is that a guy whom i love and he also loves me want to marry me his father on other side is not willing to register a plot for me and my guy by his ownself cant afford now to do this so he said that i can buy u a gold jwellery but i cant give u plot. secondly he tried a lot to transfer himself from his present city to some other place. he gone to uae in search of job . he has given interviews there . interviews gone well but they said we will call u and will tell u that u r appointed or not. he came back to his country after the visa expired. now he is doing job of 35thousand initial at his hometown. and third demand by my father was to reduce his weight to a great level,.. he did that also 3 years ago he got smart looking guy but unfortunately he had an accident and he got injured very badly doctors recommend him to take rest for about 2 months . then his weight increased . and from then till now he didnt get suitable time to reduce himself coz he has been doing job and came late at night and early in the morning he have to go to office. but now the problem is my father says if he didnt reduce his weight i will die but i will never ever allow u to get marry with him. if i asked my guy to reduce his weight he gave his explanations that he have not enough time to do excersices. what i do??? i have become sandwich between all this fuss... what i do./.. to conveince my father that i have no problem if he is fat. he loves me that counts more for me. all these things make me mad and i want to suicide at last.... please tell me what to do. should i ran from my home to him.