I am 28 years, works as an advocate, i m in love and also register married with one who is married and having one son but legally divorced but his first wife is not leave him by giving reason of their son. in divorce order no specific clause is mentioned regarding maintenance for son. i m ready to accept his son but my parents are not accepting my love marriage hence i m at my father's/brothers home.they are opposing for several reasons such as caste,his first marriage and all. i can not run away from home as my mother father are very old and my 2 brothers and their wives are blaming my parents for all things happened with me.due to this consequences my brother forcefully taken us from our home town to their town.i m now under pressure as what i can do so that my marriage will be acceptable for my parents.i don't want to remarry with other person as i love him and he also want to continue with me.still i don't tell my parents of my register marriage only i had given information about my love and want to marry.how can i handle this situation as i m in stress and in depressionplz help me

try to tell your parents about the good quality of your partner and explain them that how he will keep you happy and all. After all parents want to see their child happy. Its not easy job but have faith in God and in your relationship but don't worry this tough time will go.

Hi Priyankai,


Well, frankly speaking there are two problems working at the same time. First, your husband's ex-wife not ready to leave you and second is the problem created at your own home. .

Now, lets keep our approach such that atleast you get peace from one side. So, first and foremost thing that you should do is talk to your husband asn ask him to end his first marriage with his ex-wife completely before committing or marrying to you. Explain him that this situation is actually keep you nowhere and you are leading a life with no definite target. Neither you have your parents support with you and nor is your husband/boyfriend completely yours. So, first he should end everything related to his past whatsoever before even thinking about getting engaged to you.

Coming to your second problem, that is, parent's intervention and disagreement. Well, this is bound to happen because for being your parents obvious reasons they would never want you to settle down in life with a divorced person. The divorced tag has always been a reason for raised eyebrows. People don't easily adapt to the fact that the divorce happened because of something good. You are always targeted as the one who must have been the "bad partner" in the marriage resulting in divorce and when its with a man, people generally are more sympathetic towards his ex-wife. So, there thinking is no way wrong.

But since you have registered a court marriage with him, I don't think so, there is any point in hiding this with your parents. You should have had given it a thought long before you took this step. Now when they didn't mattered to you then, they shouldn't bother you now. When the thing is done, you should have the guts of accepting it and the consequences that follow.

So, my honest advice to you would be to first sort out your problem no 1, that is, ask your man to end everything related to him and his ex-wife and then work out on problem no. 2. Go to your parents and tell them about everything. That is the easiest and safest way I could think about. They are your parents, they might forgive you for what you have done.