I am 24 years old, pursuing final year master degree in a prestigious college and in training with one of the good pharma company. In my first year of study at college I felt in love with one of my senior, and I expressed my willingness to marry after i settle down. She has no problem, she feels lucky enough to marry me, and I too feel the same. As she is senior, finished her education and working for a company. I am still pursuing study, no job, but I am much confident of getting a decent job after 8 -10 months once i finish my education. I really love her sincerely and want to get married with in the presence of both families. I do not have a much problem from my family side. Her father is very strict and against love marriages, girl loves her father very much, at the same time she fears a lot and do not have enough courage to tel the fact. Once she told diplomatically, he straightforward rejected and started searching for groom with urgency. The girl is helpless as she don't want to face dad. If she has option dad or me, she choose previous one. I don't have any complaints for this, of course parents r our first priority. She is telling that our marriage is beyond impossible and i don't have any other option apart of forgetting her. Its really hard to do so. I love her so much and want to live with her happily forever. We both r from same profession, highly educated whats wrong in getting married? we are from same religion but caste r different. Age No prob. she is younger than me. my positive points are my academic background is very strong, achieved a lot in academics, and on down side i am from rural background lower middle class family. She is from middle class lives in city.The main problem is I am not settled yet & caste difference where it is the most important criteria for any father who want to give her daughter. I am really tired of over-thinking what to do. Please help.

First of all my friend, this is not the case that I am seeing any new, the problem always arises when the marriage issues are discussed mostly from the bride's side, because no father will like to marry her daughter to a family which has less financial security, as you said you are not yet settled, this is the first issue that may stop you to marry your Girlfriend, apart from that, the Girl's father seems to be strict as he rejected the advice of her daughter straight away without even listening to it.
We have so many threads, that have the similar kind of problem discussed around in this section, you may browse those for the ideas.....

Hi aditya123


Right advice at the right time by swapnilramani.

Priority for you should not be marriage right now. Instead focus more on your career, your job and how well n fast you can settle in your life. Financially stable is the first and foremost factor that every father would search in his son-in-law. And if you are strong enough financially, you have fair chances of winning the game.

Also, ask your girlfriend not to worry too much and stress out. Instead ask her to calm down as things will take their own time to happen. You cannot work for more than 24hours a day and earn more, become a rich person overnight. All you got to do is, hang on with time. See, analyse and hit the right opportunities. There is no point in thinking about all this right now.
Moreover, since your family has agreed to it, chances of things to work out in right direction increases automatically.
So, don't buy time on this. Ask her to sit tight and keep mum about her relationship. Involving too much might ruin up things.

Come to us when the time is right and demanding !!