Hey i m 21 years of age.. working in a real estate as BDM.i love a guy a lot. he is 24 years of age. we have a relationship since 3years. actully i want to marry with him and he is also.. but we have intercaste problem he is sharma n i m from poor caste.the guy say to me my family never accept me bcz of my caste. how we convnce his family. we dont wanna marry without his family. bcz i also dont wanna break his family... my lover worry about socity they will insult his parents.. what should i do... i help less... i rely cant live without him.... i cant plz somebody show me the path...

Hi B BAKSHI,

Thanks for writing to us.

Intercaste marriage is really a very common issue these days. There is no definite answer to your problem. There are many people with s problem similar in nature as yours. I would request you to browse the forum and look out for threads with same subject line. You can use the answers given there to work out things in your case as well. However, if you are still unsatisfied, we will help you sort out your issue.

Girl let me tell you if you dearly love your boyfriend than atleast you should not talk about this caste issue and all if you will judge him as a member of inferior caste, you are not just hurting your boyfriend but you are also hurting your love and respect for him and for your love, because love doesn't know any caste difference it just knows one thing that the person whom you love is the beautiful person on the world and the heart will not be able to live without other heart. I know you are trying to convey what the society thinks about this relationship but my dear, society always has the tendency to speak and peep into others work specially of a good cause to interrupt their work and to become obstacles in someones good work, rather if you don't get married to the guy you love and marry someone else and then won't be able to give the same love and respect to the guy to whom you are married, the SOCIETY will again peep their noses and comment on it, so try telling his parents and your parents too, that the society is going to speak any way round whatever you do and if you are still listening to them and doing what the Bloody society demands, you will always be influenced by What the society thinks for making every decision that is important for your and your daughter/sons life and will hurt the daughter/son and ruin their life by making them marry to some other and also ruin the other 2 lives as well and that of the Guy to whom you will marry and the girl to whom your bf will marry, and they do not have any right to ruin even a single life knowingly or unknowingly.
But be sure that you do all this in a very polite way in order to make them feel the sentences told by you worth and important if you do say it by loosing your temper and back firing, the words might not be that much powerful or worthy and they will go on deaf years of your parents so be sure to be very polite and calm while speaking to them..I hope for the best to happen with your relationship. Best Of Luck. Do keep updating your status even if it is solved so that we can improve ourselves to advice others and to do benefit for them too....