Hi everyone. I am in love with a girl from past 4 years. We both decided to spend our life together and took the matter to our parents. I am south indian and she is north indian. Thats where the whole problem started. Girl's family is ready to accept me provided that my family should be ready for the marriage. Now, my parents are not even ready to listen to my points. They are simply rejecting my points in the name of cultural difference. We both are well educated and have good job. Only issue is of cultural difference. Nobody in my family is ready to accept her because of this. I have tried all possible ways to convince them. Everytime i take this matter to them, they start getting angry and respond in a very indifferent manner.

We both love eachother alot. we dont want to do court marriage because that will hurt our parents. We want to do it with their blessings. Please can someone help me and advise on what should i do now to convince my parents for this. I really have no clue on what to do and thats y iam posting this so that anyone of you could come up with a good advise and help me out of this situation.

Thanks.

Hi Friend,


Well, communication is the only way you can solve this issue. I would never ever suggest you for a court marriage or getting married by keeping your parents in dark. They are the people who actually made you capable of everything you are right now.

I suggest you are hurrying on it a bit too much. You had a talk with your family on this. The situation has come to a point where your neither of the parties ( your parents and you ) is ready to compromise. So, it seems a deadlock and clash of opinions. All you got to do is, rest the whole matter for a while. You have done enough of talking and convincing. Now, give sometime to your parents to think about it in detail, evaluate the details and come back to you on the same topic i.e your marriage.

Next time when you talk to them, just stay assertive and practical in your approach. Try to convince them on points questioning them as where lies the cultural differences ? Talk to them and ask them very politely the basic differences. Don't south Indians celebrate Diwali, Holi, Ganesh Chaturthi, Eid, Navratri or other festivals oddly enough just like us ? Don't they worship to God, visit temples or anything? Don't they eat, sleep, drink and work like north Indians? Its just the language that is different which is of hardly any importance to you. Then where lies the culture differences ?
Make them count the good qualities of your girlfriend. South Indian girls are way cultured and decent in behavior than north Indian. They have a simple living, decent thinking etc.

But, anyways, right now, its time for you to sit for a while and stop discussing about your marriage. Let the matter rest and give sometime for your parents to think about it. Later, if you see any positive responses from your family, at first, try to organize a meeting between both the families, so that they get to understand each other well.

Hang on... !!! These things will take sometime.

Make them count the good qualities of your girlfriend. South Indian girls are way cultured and decent in behavior than north Indian. They have a simple living, decent thinking etc.

Pulkit you have mismatched their cultures, our friend Aarav is South Indian while the Girl is North Indian.
Coming to your point Aarav, Can I know what all have you said to convince your parents for the marriage with your girlfriend, it is important for me to know what talks you have had with your parents to suggest you something

Girl's family is ready to accept me provided that my family should be ready for the marriage.

Well I am happy atleast you are accepted by the Girl's family as this becomes the difficult part for most of relationships.
Well to say for now, Whatever pulkit said is correct, now that you have done more convincing, you should rest this matter for sometime, well, if the next time this topic comes, as pulkit said, you open up on the topic of cultural differences and the qualities that your Girl Friend possess in her, that has made you love her, but on a very polite note, just understand the point that you have to hit the metal when it is hot and you have to hit it with caution to give it a proper shape, so my dear, whenever you open up this topic make sure you are very polite and every word uttered from your mouth are hitting right on the money i.e, right on your parents heart and inducing them to think on it deeply.