i m 28 year old guy, i started knowing a girl from my community, she is also of same age,we both are tamil people. we were friends for some 1year before.. but later we became close 9 months before,we were in totally two different cities close to eachother.she is basically a tomboyish and has lot of guy friends. before 6 months, we were close for 2,3 months i proposed her that time. she was almost so close with me she accepted.we used to talk in phone for 12 hrs everyday for 2 months.. her parents were looking for alliance and she told about me, her parents straightway rejected me saying abt my education and same age.
Her parents are basically involved too much into spirituality and black magic, they doesnt allow her to talk to guys, bt she does that with out thier knowledge, she has good friends basically...mostly all are guys..this girl s independent and broadminded girl.they said its bcos of some black magic, this guy is doing black magic so dont talk to them anymore. her parents are very strict people and she had a very bad childhood with strict mom and dad who is not so caring about her.even hthere used to be lot of fights between her dad and mom...they are jus living for the sake they just got married.. this was the reason i wanted to be with her life long giving her a caring life.. she knows this too.. when we became close, i could sense that this girl was so lonely and alone in her life...
she had a bf 3 years back and he left her, her parents gave the same reaction when she told them about this guy to them.. that time, she was ready to come out from her family, bt that guy was not intrested and he left her.. she hates her parents to the core. but she is the only daughter.I told her that u can come out i ll talk to my dad and get married. she said she is not intrested in marriage and she wants to fly to US as her company is sending her there.her parents are searching alliance and nothing is materialisng bcos of her age is 28, and they believe in some spiritual leader who is the one who can show them the guy.. even i started believing in that spiritual leader after some miracle i experianced..her life was full of miracles. she s generally a easy going cool girl. always smile on her face...she knws i m romantic and caring towards her, she said i want to control talking wth u, bcos sometimes it goes on for hours unknowingly, since u are too good in attracting me towards u.. she shares her future plans with me always..
she was still talking with me after that, and we became close after that, physically too(jus kiss and hugs),only after she told her parents. we had met for the first time, i was not so intrested in meeting her bt she forced me, she cried when we first met and next time when we were alone she hugged and cried,she said, u are the only one who can handle me 100%. i decided that i shoudnt leave that girl and help her... i gave her my words that i wont leave u untill u get married and will wait for u till u take a decision... we became close, bt she use to tell me.. we ill stop talking as its not going to work, my mom is strict and all that, she some how tries to avoid me but still talk with me... 4 months it was like that,we jus use to talk normal things and she share her problems..., two months before she left to US. she never called me after that, bt we are in touch online.. still she tells the same thing tht, their parents wont accept.. but she cribs about her parents to me,, that they are useless.. and shares all her problems... i share my family problems..
one more thing actually,she shared her mail id and psswrd when we were close, i jus checked it 3 months before.. she was chating with one of her girl friends about a guy, she was complaining about a guy,
it seems she ws in relationship with some other guy who is her collegue and friend, that this guy is not at all caring about her, leaves her in the road and goes off,they are having big fights and all.. just using her time and money for his needs. this guy is from UP totally different caste. and he has some girl who s her family friend, he always gives priority to that girl. i was shocked reading all that, eventually i saw other chat messeges between them, she told that she totally lost intrestest in this guy.. bt that guy is not ready to leave her... he comes and cries every day... i was shocked.. (i then came to knw that they were jus in a commitment for 4,5 months before meeting me.) she never told anything like that becose i know her for 1 year, when we first talked she said she s single and unlucky to find a guy for marriage... the two months when we were close was the time he had lot of fights wth him,through her chats i came to know that.none of her friends know that, we both are close.
other close friend who she chated told that, i had told him that i cant marry him( that UP guy) bcos my parents are not even allowing a guy from my caste(me) if i choose a guy,they are telling same black magic... he told that, why cant u take a decision, she said the guy from my caste is ready to talk to his dad, she will discuss abt it before she goes to US, bt she told she s nt intrested in marriage these days.. that guy just told be careful and dont trust guys so fast...a true guy wont leave u and go in difficult situation.. she said i want to come to US now and leave this marriage topic..this was 6 months before when we were close.even this(UP guy) guy knows that she was close with me..and we were talkng late nights..
i jus asked her abt that guy, she said he s friend.. who is intrested in me onsided.and she even use tell me that guy is a idiot, one of her family friend girl is using her nu.but later on, this guy realised it and came out her. intially she used to complain a lot about this girl and that guy, that girl had made a trap for her and she some how escaped.. she is trying to create bad name for her and all that,,,
she says he doesnt knw how to handle and understand a girl basically nu.. they go out sometimes for movies too. since they are good friends for 2 years.. and helps eachother in work issue. before she leavng to US, they both had even went to some temple, which i happn to see from her chat with her friend. i am wonderiing even what is there between them?? i asked her why cant u marry him, she said her parents are not allwng me who s from my caste.. how come they allow a guy from UP? now this guy has also left for US, but different location. basically her idea in life is to settle in US.
she said, i want to be all alone in US, since only there she is peacefull and no stress from her parents, i dont mind staying single all my life... i will think next year abt my marriage..
i don know what is running in her mind??next year she is coming back, i m wondering what to do? should i wait or move on?? I am thinking of asking to come out of her house..basically i want to give her a smooth caring life, some times she pings me and chats when i avoid her.. basically she wants me behind her..we never had big fights and has a good understanding between eachother... wt to do friends kindly adivse me.
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