Im 26 yrs old.im a doctor in reputed hospital! Im in love wid a guy since my 12 th standard. He s a business man n earns a handsome money.my parents are very keen abt CASTE. Im hindu.tamil.diff caste. He's christian.telugu.diff caste....his parents accepted our love when i was doin ma college.but in my family all are against love marriage.Im deeply in love wid him. I can never think of any other guy in his place.i wanna get married to him.plz give me sum suggestion. I don wanna elope wid him but at d same tym i wanna marry wid ma parents wish...! Villian in dis is CASTE.

Hii,
Thanks for writing us.
You have very correctly mentioned caste system as an evil, but the important thing to look at is that we are the ones who have created it and we are the only ones who can destroy it.
Coming to your point,
I would like to tell you, that it is not just a caste difference but a religion difference as well, now here is what you can do,
1. You may arrange a meeting of your guy with your parents and let them get a chance to be familiar with eachother
2. you may also arrange meeting of your family with his family and let elders talk on this matter, personally I feel that this may be more helpful to you, as the guys family have accepted you and they will make efforts to convince your parents for thos marriage.
3. You can make your parents sit with you and you may discuss with them all the qualities of your guy that has made you fall for him, this will give them a chance to think on your choice.
As far as caste n religion is concerned,
make them understand that happiness of a coue depends on how much understanding and love they share between them and not on the caste or religion, if you find, that your daughter is happy with the guy of her choice after the marriage even if caste are different, wouldn't u be satisfied and happy to see ua daughter happy.....as I suppose this is what you want, as a father, that ua daugther should be happy with whomsoever she ties her knot with. And isn't this important for you that ylur daughter loves a guy and the guy too loves me deeply and we share a very good understanding which is more important for a successful relationship.
Tell your dad that youvdearly love your guy and could not imagine anyvotger guy in place of him to spend to ua life with, its an important decision of ua life and u hav every right to choose what is best for you, tell them that the possibility of you running away and marrying your guy was very much there, but all these things are done by cowards and not the persons like you, make him understand that you respect her as your father and your bestest buddy since childhood, and his approval is very important for you, and all these you are saying because somewhere in deep insights you believe that your father will understand you and consider your points and think not just as a father but as a best buddy of his daughter before arriving on any conclusion, tell him that ge has been a superhero for you since ua childhood n is still a superhero fo u but if he chooses to force his decision on ua life, he may ruin your happiness and the respect that he posses in ua mind, tell him the choice is in his hand whether to look for the happiness of his child or whether to satisfy the shitty rules of siciety and make it happy and ruin the life of hus daughter just for the concern of a two faced society, that talks one thing at one time and other at sone other time for a single issue.........
P.S:- Remember all these you have to handle very very polietly as a slight rise in ua voice can prove dangerous for u future, you have to be calm, polite and also with full of sentiments so that u may hit the bulls eye that is the heart of ua father or mother whomsoever u talk with first