Hi Guys,

I am living overseas from past few years. The problem is bit weird actually since childhood my cousin (massi's Daughter) was y best friend like we use to share secrets and everything. From past 4 years she is here with me overseas intially everything was good between us but when she had a bf (now her husband) things started getting bad between us. I know one you have some one in life the attention do get divided but its just that we both become mean and all. She use to stay with me but then moved out with her bf and none in our family knew because they are back in india so apparently i use to live by myself and was in depression as lonliness was killing me. So i have this hatred in me that she used me and now when she hv bf she kicked me out like anything. Well this happend ages ago then i have someone in life but i still know how to manage my relation with my brother / sister because each of them have value in life. Now the thing is i always call her or text her to meet up and all but she is never interested and says she has money issues anhd all but she has time for her friends she put pics with them and update her status and i feel bad that she has time for them but not her sister. I miss her but i hate her as well Dont know what is going on in my head.

Hi Sameeksha,
See there is a fact of life that, the more you love a person the less he/she respects you and value you.
So, the best thing I would suggest you to do is that let her do what she is doing. You try to divert your mind to a different part of your life, give time to your friends and relatives. Try not giving more value to your sister for some days and the result what I see is that she would recognize this odd behavior of yours and would definitely come and talk to you.
Because it is really hard for a person to become less valued and less noticed by some one who seems to be so close to him/her.
This would definitely work for you. Try it.

Life changes , there is nothing consistent in life and thats the truth. You are an intellectual person, you know that you miss her. However, you said she cites problem of money, then may there is problem of money. Is it you are financially stronger than her, if yes then may be she has developed some type of complex regarding same. Thats natural. You should actually make new friends, find new places. You may even help people here, there are lots of things, social issue, technical issue. As Rishabh said, just divert your mind and accept it as a change.

Hi Sameeksha,
Welcome back first of all,
You are very matured and intelligent person, you provide many good suggestions to others who come up with love issues and marriage issues here.
Yes, you mentioned it correctly that after some one enters into somebodys life the attention gets divided, what I too feel is, yes you miss her in ua life as she ws ua best buddy, but as time changes we also have to change. She is ignoring u just becoz u r valuing her more than u value uaself ir ua other companions so what u do is juz ignore ua sister n gv all ua attention to u n person u hv in ua life n ua frnds.
And remember one thing don't value any person more than u.

give some surpise .. so that she also care about you. you can send her some flower , gift by using floweraura.