How to convince your parents about your love
Once you fall in love with someone and are certain you want to marry your love the first phase is the one that’s complete because the next one (the hardest one) remains. Marriage is a huge commitment and when parents learn that their child has found someone to marry and start a new life with several doubts, questions and uncertainties arise in their mind. Marriage between two people is a big turning point in life and everyone’s parents would like to believe and know that their little one found the ideal match in their love.
This is why people in love sometimes get worried when they have to confront their parents that their partner is perfect for them and that they want to marry them. Parents usually react with shock when children break the news that they are in love and want to get married. So here are a few ways to deal with the situation well so that parents get convinced that your choice is truthfully the best one.
AVOID TELLING THEM SUDDENLY
If you are in a deep relationship and are considering marriage then it is a wise idea to regularly give inputs about your developing and strong relationship so that from their side they expect a marriage in the future. When a couple breaks the news suddenly, that’s when parents get rattled. The best option is to break it gently, dropping hints over a period of time. Talk about how great your partner is with you over a period of time so when you finally tell them that you two want to get married they don’t take it badly.
LET YOUR PARENTS GET TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER.
If you are in a relationship and it’s a serious one then it is advisable to get your partner and parents to meet once in a way. Include your partner in family outings and include your parents for weekend get together. That way, through social gatherings both sides will get a chance and meeting each other constantly. This will help give your parents a fair idea of how your partner is as a person. Finally, when you two decide that you want to take it to the next level and get married, try to tell your parents together, as a couple. Present your decision as a mature, independent couple that is ready to take on the new commitment of a married life. This will help your parents to stop taking unnecessary tension and they’ll trust you and your decision.
FOCUS ON THE FACT THAT YOUR PARTNER IS THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE
When you ease the news to your parents, never start telling them that you have decided to get married and that’s that. In order to convince them that what you are doing is indeed a good and mature thing you need to focus on telling your parents how great your partner is and how they are the love of your life. At the end of the day, deep inside their hearts, parents just want one thing for their children – they want them to be happy. So tell them how much your partner makes you happy and makes you a better person so that they are convinced that your choice is right. The point is: talk about the person in a good light.
TALK ABOUT THE LITTLE THINGS YOUR PARTNER DOES TO MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL
Every parent wants their child to feel special and cared for. This is why they always feel that no one is a good match for their children because they believe that no on can love their children the way they deserve to be loved. This is precisely why you should talk about the little things that your partner does to make you feel special so that your parents finally believe that your partner is indeed a great catch.
PROVE THAT YOUR PARTNER IS THE RIGHT ONE
Sometimes, it just takes a little bit of effort to prove to your parents that your partner is the right one. A few things like making your partner call your parents for birthdays and anniversaries is one helpful way which will make parents believe that your partner is actually a good catch who has good manners and makes the extra effort to belong to the family. Once they recognize your partner’s genuine efforts they will surely try to be nice to them thus eventually accepting that you have already made your decision to marry “the one”.
LET THE PARENTS MEET
Sometimes, if the couple can successfully make the two families (each other’s parents) meet and get along then a decision to marry will be supported by all. Try getting yours and your partner’s parents to meet each other. Book a holiday inn or a cozy picnic spot or club for the occasion so that each side gets plenty of time to relax and talk. Once you set the ambiance things will progress smoothly and eventually when you tell them that you want to get married they will probably be okay with it.
ALL THE BEST !!!!
*Disclaimer: These are just few ways one can adopt while trying to convince his/her parents. Following these might give you a success.
Impossible to leave my boyfriend but parents have bad impression about him
Hi Pulkit,
Its really a great post.
But I have a question...My mother came to know about my boyfriend one year back that too in a negative way..She thought that everything is over between us but I really love him and Its impossible for me to leave him..and even my father is against love marriage...I am 24 years old and every moment I am thinking about how to tell them :( ...Should I start giving hints to them or Is ther any other possible way...we both are from same caste!!!