What is my relationship status and my marriage ?
Hi,
I am male 27, I love a girl at my past company. Initially we were very good friends. we used to share our feelings. we used to chat late night daily.
we used to sit together during commutation to office. so you can say we used to spend almost day together.
then i started liking her, i told he. her ae is 23. she told that she is not ready for marriage now. she is too young to decide for marriage. but we continued as same as friend.
whenever i used to push her again she used to ignore me for few day but used to come back within few days.
this year 2012, we went for a trip for 3 days. there we became close. i felt her neck. when we came back she accepted my proposal.
I left comany and after that shw was missing me so much.. crying.. she ven started to come office without ornaments and all.. saying who is there to see me..
she was like i already feel that i am your wife.
in between we did phone sex on sms 2-3 times. last time was before valentine night 14 feb 2012.
we knew that there could be problem with famliy side.
we kept our relation to ourself. She spoke to her sister and cousin brother about me.. She told me that they are not open for intercast marriage.
now the problem comes..
on valentine , i sent her flowers to her office. She got angry to saying that people in my ofice were asking me who sent flowers. It was uncomfertable for her.
She came home and told parent k someone sent me flowers. parenst told that we will get you married soon. we dont like love and all.
next day i said sorry, for that she replied that she is not in position to think and very disturbed.
She needed to move to new team. she said "I have new task coming up in office and i cant focus because of so much going around".
She ignore me afterwards and became rude to me. after 3 days i asked why? she told that she is feeling guilty for phone sex.
i should do this only after marriage.
after that she started to behave like friend. and last week, for very small fight, she made point that i have made my decision. you move on.
i tried to speak but She said.. i dont love you infact i hate you for loving me so much. i can only think of marriage situation.
She is ignoring me and not speaking to me.
I know that its mostly beacuse of caste problem.i am independent and earns very good.
i told her to be calm..let me speak to your parents or sister atleast. but she is not ready.
during last 3 weeks after valentine , I lost every thing.
I miss her so much. i feel lonely. i am very sad. i love her so much.
what should i do?
Should i stop talking to her?
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Originally Posted by
Pulkit
Hello nikh_gupt,
I went through your problem statement and things are now going steep in your life. Well, as of now just do one thing, give her sometime to calm down and decide on what she wants from her life. Its just that she is angry and she said all this in her disappointment. So give her sometime to concentrate on her life and office stuffs as she is feeling it difficult to manage both her worlds together.
DONT PRESS HER FOR MARRIAGE for few weeks as this might ruin the situation as well. Regarding intercast marriage, things will be dealt later. Right now its time that you should concentrate more on making her feel secure than trying to increase the intimacies between you both. She is feeling insecure and this is probably the reason why her interest in other things has deceased considerably. Stop everything and give her sometime to ask herself as to what she wants from her life and if she really loves you or was it just an infatuation or a physical attraction.
When the time is right, you can very well talk to her parents regarding your marriage with her. Also, I would advice to talk to her sister and cousin brother first and try to get them in your support. This might help you out when you will actually deal with her parents.
All The Best !!
Take Care !!
Hmm even i feel i should give her time ff. She is not speaking to me properly. She just answers if sent a text normally. how was your day? kind off..
so should i stop talking to her and texting her completly?