Is she really gone- she finds other guys attractive
I am from chandigarh, me and my gf (24 & 22 respectively) are in committed relationship for 4 years. We both love each other very much, with all usual ups and downs of relationship we were having good time dates, late night chats, helping each other, teasing, romance etc.
I shifted to different to Hyderabad (for job) in March while she got admission in MBA in July (in chandigarh only). We were happy, we would talk late night for long hours and talk about our day, she would even cry on phone sometimes that she misses me and wants me to come back. But since September her behavior changed, she stopped receiving calls in college and spared very little time for us to talk. She said she is busy in college because of which she does not get much time. We had many fights over this in Sep-Oct, some of them were too huge.
She even had arguments with her sister and father because she does not give time at home now. She enjoys company of her new friends though. I had become little insecure, so would often ask her who is she talking on whatsapp late night etc.
I went back to Chandigarh in Nov, she was very very excited to meet me. She was planning date with so much enthusiasm. Finally we met (4 Nov) and I discussed about all this 2 months fight. I was seeing her new phone, I found out she had deleted some chats from her college's whatsapp group. She said 'we friends were just pulling each other's leg by joining names with each other playfully. I thought you might be angry to read this so I deleted.' I was upset with this, she hugged me, tried to calm me down, we went for shopping.
We came back home and talked, she was feeling bad for all the things she did that hurt me. She asked me not to leave her because of her foolishness. Things were normal+tensed for 2-3 days, afterwards she one day did not pick my call (7 nov). I tried whole day but she did not.
At night I somehow managed to talk to her online. She said 'I am depressed about my life, I dont find you interesting, I feel attracted to other guys, I am afraid of marrying you now, I hate you now, I feel frustrated in this relationship, I want my life back I dont want to answer anyone'. She feels lack of intimacy a lottt. She feels she is attracted to other guys that means I am not the right guy, so even if we marry she might like other guys in future which would spoil everything.
She had her exams net week so even after my lots of efforts she did not talk/chat, She blocked me every where and changed all her passwords. I let her study and came back to Hyd, I still used to call her once every 2 days but she never picked up. Her exams finished on 22 Nov and on 23rd Nov she texted me just 'hi hw r u? dinner? r u seriously ok?' and after that she blocked me again.
I have been in contact with her sister to ask about her, but today she told me that my gf said 'Dont talk to him, I have made it clear to him whats good for both of us.' She even has arguments with her sister, much like a stubborn teenager.
She had stopped eating non-veg for me, because I am vegetarian but her sister told me she has started it again.
I dont know what to do now :( I love her so much, I know she too loves me. I think that she is going through lot of changes in her life due to college, age and friends. I feel she will return to her senses soon but a part of me (and my friends) say that she is gone now.
