How can i convince my parents and my gf's parents for our intercaste marriage?
1) i m Arnav kumar 28yrs old, SC (MBA and MA) and my gf z 25yrs old Rajpoot (B.Com), and we r in a relationship with my gf for last 1.5yrs, and we both r aviation industry professional, my salary z 25000 and her z 11000. her parents are completely against the marriage and my family wont get agree until her family say Yes.
2) i am not at all rich in fact we have lil bit financial problems too and she belongs to a upper middle class.
3) i am not well settled guy and dont think that i am a perfect one for her, but always says that she will manage and she z also ready to break off with her parents forever.
4) her parents want her to marry with a guy who belongs to there caste, govt employee (Joint Engineer) salary could be 70000-80000 per month.
i love her so much thats y i dont want to lose her. her parents have chosen that guy for her.
now plz help me, coz we both dont want separation.
yes v hve tried bt d situations has becum worst.
Hi brother,
yes we have tried alot bt the situation has become worst, her parents is not talking to her, they are just avoiding her, now they blame her for each n everything, they even think that she discloses her family matters with me, i dont know what to do, she says that she will leave her home and will stay in any rented house, bt i dont want that, thats y i made her understand. her family has strictly rejected my me, now she is forcing me to run away from the home, bt i dont want to do that also, becoz i feel that this is not a right thing to do, thats y i told her, till the end of this year we will try our best to make them understand bt even after that they wont accept our relation then we will take this step, bt now when i had words with her cousin sister then also told me that "running away" from home is not right option and nobody will accept us after that, and her cousin sister is also against this step, thats y now i am totally confuse that, what to do..????
now plz suggest me any other option..
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and she is doing this job to prove herself, and she has just stated her career with an airline, she always tell me that she can't just sit at home..
plz help us, becoz we dont hve much more time now, i hope you will try to help me, i m looking for ur reply, , plz reply as earliest as possible, thankyou brother.
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Originally Posted by
Pulkit
Hello arnav.kumar2012,
Its good that you thinking practically as far as this relationship is concerned. As I always say being in a relationship doesn't only mean hanging outs, watching movies, having fun, going to restraunts etc. It actually means you are taking someone's responsibility on you. So if you are thinking about your future in terms of finance, I guess this is something really good that you are doing.
Things would have been different if, you would have given it a thought long before entering into this relationship. May be, you would have refrained yourself from getting into love. But since, you both are in a relationship and love each other alot, I suggest you should initiate a talk with both the families and atleast try once to convince them.
Its okay, if they dont agree. Every parent has a dream that their daughter should be married to someone who is financially strong to keep her happy. They are absolutely correct if they are thinking so. All you need to do is make them realize that your commitment with their daughter is a decision taken after a very thoughtful process and that you really in love with her. You need to make them understand that its a bad time you are going through and you are making THE BEST of efforts to make things work out in your favor. You actually need to tell them that their concern is your concern too and that you will put in the best of your efforts to keep her financially strong and keep her happy.
A very deep, thoughtful, serious discussion is the need for the hour. Make them realize you value their daughter alot and that you will try your best to keep their concerns away.
So, all I can suggest you is, sit with her parents, talk to them and try to convince them. Tell them you need some time and you will definitely make things work out.
Don't feel sad or disheartened if they completely reject your proposal. The best part would be that you tried, so just feel proud about it. Talk to your girl on this and let me know what your next step would be.