Family wants me to choose either them or my love - advice please

Hello . I am 27 years old girl. M a doctor nd doing job . M in stress these days. I love some one who belongs to rajput cast nd i m brahmin. At first i wanna tell u abut me. Mai ghar mai sabse choti or chahiti hu. Sab mujhse bhut pyaar karte hai nd vishwas bhi. But mujse galti ho gai that mujhe pyaar ho gya . 5 years ka relationship hai . I lost my father 7 months ago. He loves me so much nd me too. Abhi kuchh din pehle di ki mother i law ne mere liye rishta dekha . Nd sabko vo pasand hai . But i tol my family abut my love. Koi nahi maan raha . Everyone is against. They are saying me to forget him. Which i cant . Because he is v good for me. Wo abhi financial settle nahi hua hai but he needs only few moth to get settle. But meri family wale nahi maan rahe . Plzz help me . Wo emotional blackmail kar rahe hain .they are saying that choose one of them . But i cant live without both . Please help me. Becoz my last decision is v bad ns sad. Jo mai kabhi nahi chose karna chahungi .. plzz help me