To tell my about my love life to fiance and ask him for help.

i m a 22 years girl and so much confused about my love life and my parents.one year ago my parents started looking for a suitable boy for me then i told my boyfriend about that and he decided for meeting my parents,as decided he came to meet my father and convinced him to agree but my father refused his purposal because we belongs to different casts,it was very bad moment of my life and my father find a unsuitable boy for me but as useually i was not ready for his decision,but in indian society girls r not advance and they can not take any decision but i tried to solve that problen and after 4 months i broke up all the relation with my fiance but again my parents found a new boy for me and engaged me with him i can't do anything because i don't want to hurt anyone and i cant told my new boy about my relation....i want to convince my fiance but i afraid about our future if my fiance does not support me then i can fall in big problem i know he can understand but i can't talk to him about this.i love my boyfrien so much and he is also serious about our relation he is a good boy...but problem is that how my fiance refused this relation..i love my boyfriend so much.pleas try to understand.i dont want to marry of my parents choice.......please help me.please try to understand let me go.......

Hi rekhasharma,


You cannot marry to someone else and your parents don't agree with your boyfriend because of this caste issue. So, summing up all you are stuck.
Basically, you have already broke up with one of the guys your parents chose for you and still after all this they have got another match for you. Clearly, they are not at all interested in your boyfriend marrying you.

But after all that has happened with you, you can now talk to your parents about this once again and tell them that once their decision ended up badly and now you wouldn't appreciate them making another decision of your life. Convince them that you are educated and mature enough to take your own decisions. You are not blaming your parents for what happened, but all you want is that they should think about your choice as well, atleast for once.

Tell them, you tried your level best to make things work out between you and your fiance. But due to whatever reasons, things were not bound to happen and thus you two ended up badly. Tell them that still after hearing all this, your boyfriend is ready to get married to you but just because you guys don't want to hurt your parents, he is respecting their decisions.

I believe a clear communication and wise discussion can only solve this matter. So, try to talk to your parents about this and plead them not to ruin your life by making decisions and sticking to them based on some really old customs of this society.

Rekha, The fact that your parents have found some other guy for you even after you managed to call off the first guy shows your parents lack of interest in making you marry to the guy you love.I would have adviced you straight away to have a clear communication with parents about your decision, but I want to know details about your boyfriend, as in whether the caste is the only issue why the parents have denied acceptance for your marriage with your bf or is it some other reason too, let me know some details regarding his financial security, other social security whether you are willingly accepted by his family or not and so on...