In love with Telugu married girl and She knows it

I am also a Tamilian in love with a Telugu cutie. She knows I love her so much. I am really so fond of her and she is married. I fell in love at first sight. Then only I came to know she is married but I can't stop loving her.

on the third day I offered lift in my scooter and she not surprisingly agreed. She asked for treat while on pillion and I took her for the same. I am thrilled. She is having a new born baby also. She reciprocated my love for her. I am guilty of loving another man's wife.

Please advice what to do. Shall I carry on loving her or stop it (of course I can't stop loving her anyway)

Whenever I make a phone call she will call me back that shows how much she likes (note: I do not use the word love) me.

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Hello pulisingham,

Whatever is happening with you or whatever you have mentioned above gives a great feeling when you get in love for the first time with someone but basically you need to be bit understanding which you ofcourse are as it is quiet evident from the sentence where you say you are guilty of loving another man's wife

This is something very clear. She is married...has a settled life, a loving husband and now a new bond too, so it would be better for you to stay away from her. Moreover when you say you love her, let me tell you its not love but just a mere infatuation which really happens when you come across to someone of like mindedness and same wavelength. But. friend, you need to realize that if you move further on this things will be difficult for both of you to handle. She is married and has a family and hence she would be the one least affected. But it would be you who would be perhaps spoiling his life for her.
See its a very simple thing, she is married and even if she is reciprocating to your love gestures, that actually doesnt mean that she loves you...perhaps she considers you just a good friend. So, my honest advice to you would be to move out of all this mess and live your life. Love will strike at your door some day definitely and it will happen when the time will be right. You can just be good friends with her and that will be okay but loving her is , I dont think so acceptable.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nTb3RyoxhCQ

She ever said to you that she loves you ?
Most probably she is seeing you as someone who gives importance to her and hence treating you as good pal, I doubt if she is thinking love for you.

I know loving another man's wife is in itself committing to adultery, but it is going to be too difficult for me to think of anything other than my wife. She is too kind and nice a girl that she can't reject my love and affection for her. She is an happily married and highly contented girl which one can make out from her face.

She is matured and measured in her speech. I can't live without her. The one consolation is she is settled in Chennai and her native is in Andhra just 2 hours journey from Chennai. I cn keep on talking to her and seeing her but I find it difficult if I can't marry her. I want her at any cost.

two famous people come to my mind when thinking of loving another man's wife.
one is MGR
second is Pandit Ravi shankar the famous musician

both of them married another man's wife and lived with them till their life.

MGR married another man's wife without even getting divorce from the first husband.
the age difference between Ravishankar and his wife was 34 years and this Ravishankar is still alive at 93.

Both the cases were happily married ones.

I want my sweetheart despite the guilt.

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Originally Posted by pulisingham

I know loving another man's wife is in itself committing to adultery, but it is going to be too difficult for me to think of anything other than my wife. She is too kind and nice a girl that she can't reject my love and affection for her. She is an happily married and highly contented girl which one can make out from her face.

She is matured and measured in her speech. I can't live without her. The one consolation is she is settled in Chennai and her native is in Andhra just 2 hours journey from Chennai. I cn keep on talking to her and seeing her but I find it difficult if I can't marry her. I want her at any cost.

two famous people come to my mind when thinking of loving another man's wife.
one is MGR
second is Pandit Ravi shankar the famous musician

both of them married another man's wife and lived with them till their life.

MGR married another man's wife without even getting divorce from the first husband.
the age difference between Ravishankar and his wife was 34 years and this Ravishankar is still alive at 93.

Both the cases were happily married ones.

I want my sweetheart despite the guilt.

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Ha ha ha. This is a really nice example that you have given but do you understand these people are not just common man. They are celebs and they have their own life, own society and what makes them apart from us is money. Anyways, lets not get into this. The point that I am hinting you at is its not important here that you love her or not. The thing that really matters is, whether she loves you or not. See, you will find girls of all kinds, some are friendly, some are not. She is the one who likes to be with you but just as a friend. Everything that she is doing or has done, she has a very clear motive behind it and that is to be friends with you. But problem with you is, you are taking those signs as indicators of love, which is very wrong of you.

try to understand sir, there is a clear demarcation between friendship and love. You need to realize things that you have been thinking about are not practically possible. What you call love is a mere infatuation which will fade with time.

Now, there are two things that you can do. Firstly, either be friends with her, know her more and propose her when you feel the time is right. She will let you know whatever is in her mind. If she likes you as a friend, she will tell you and if there is anything thats going to happen in your favor, it will happen naturally. You didn't need to bother about that.

Or, you can try to stay away from her as you are getting too much involved in her which is obviously of no use ( as I see ). Try to avoid frequent interactions with her or just be acquaintance with her not more that required. This will help you come out of this crush thing.

I feel the latter suggestion goes best with you because personally I wouldn't appreciate the idea of you falling in for her and later regret. So, try to understand the situation. Things will mess up if you don't stop yourself right away and it will be hard for both of you.

From your quote "Firstly, either be friends with her, know her more and propose her when you feel the time is right. She will let you know whatever is in her mind"

This is very heartening. Thanks for your advice which I think is very practical.

I prey to God that he gives my Sweetheart to me. She is mine.
She knows very well that I love her. How she knows I love her.
I praise her too much whenever I get opportunity and that itself
acted as "signal of LOVE"

I want her very soon. Otherwise I will die for her and grow in her womb
so that she becomes my mother. in that way I can get HER (motherly) love.
I am so DEEPLY in love with her.

Hello pulisingham,

You are most welcome. Its really nice to know your thoughts about her. Somewhere you want her as your girlfriend and somewhere you want her as your mother. This is really funny. But, let me warn you again, everything within a limit is acceptable. When things go out of designed boundary, it become difficult to manage the outcomes. So, just a word for you, love but don't let this love dominate you. Emotions when shown in controlled way are appreciated but when you public your emotions too much, people tend to make distance from you and then there is no place for your emotions in this world.

So, act maturely and do things practically.

Good Bye.

Imagine yourself marrying her and some guy saying these things about your wife.. Put yourself in her husband's shoes.
& she has a kid. Things would get very, very complicated. I'd suggest you to stick to being friends! :)

A girl in all probability will not tell I love you before a man does that. Her body language and conduct suggests she likes me a lot.
a few days back I spoke to her over phone and she seems to be upset with me (I don't know why), but I sent her a cajoling mail to her asking her to reply. she didn't reply but 2 days later I got a phone call but no speech from the other side and later the phone was kept. I know it was she.

A couple of days later I called her she talked to me and her voice sounded consoled. The email I sent had a soothing effect on her. Her voice sounded full of love for me.

Look, love is not about just loving a single girl. It can happen with anyone and anywhere. But the need to understand the cureent situation is the thing. Just try understanding whether the scene that this love would create will effect whom and how much and then make decisions.
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Originally Posted by rahul_rastogy

Look, love is not about just loving a single girl. It can happen with anyone and anywhere. But the need to understand the cureent situation is the thing. Just try understanding whether the scene that this love would create will effect whom and how much and then make decisions.

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It is adultery if I enjoy her with/without the knowledge of her husband, but if I will marry her after she divorces then it is ok. I don't know what attracts me towards her so much. I am so fond of her. I always want to be with her, I always want to konjufy (coax) her. She attracts me magnetically. She is irresistible to me.

She knows very well that I am so very fond of her. She likes and enjoys my exceptional and extraordinary fondness for her. What is important is this bond happened within few hours over a period of 3 days (11 days gap between 2nd and 3rd day)

She was so concerned that she wanted to talk to me (because she usually never calls me), but she was so nervous when she called me, so much so that she couldn't talk to me. She kept (cut off) the phone.

Hey!
How sure are you that you're reading her "signs" correctly?
Isn't she happy with her marriage?

& yeah love isn't about loving a single girl. But if you truly love someone, and given that you KNOW she is happily married, you would never wanna spoil things for her. I would refuse to consider it love if you're out to ruin her marriage to have your own happy ending.

She Likes me, she feels for me for sure I am happy she feels a lot for me.

..hey buddy..its jst an attraction..i understand u mite b flng a high now..but pls keep da awful thots of her divorce away from ur mind...its not gonna do ny gud to u,her,her husband nd especially da innocent,lil kid..m sure u r a mature guy..nd i riily don see a reason y da girl is behaving so positive towards u(according to wat u say)its probly dat she jst has a crush on u..dis is jst a temporary phase for both of u..u will surely find true love out der nd not jst mere attraction..nd mark my words frnd..1day ul jst laf dis away...all da best to u!!

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Originally Posted by roses123

..hey buddy..its jst an attraction..i understand u mite b flng a high now..but pls keep da awful thots of her divorce away from ur mind...its not gonna do ny gud to u,her,her husband nd especially da innocent,lil kid..m sure u r a mature guy..nd i riily don see a reason y da girl is behaving so positive towards u(according to wat u say)its probly dat she jst has a crush on u..dis is jst a temporary phase for both of u..u will surely find true love out der nd not jst mere attraction..nd mark my words frnd..1day ul jst laf dis away...all da best to u!!

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I want her anyway she can leave her baby with her ex and I want ONLY her. She will be my PRECIOUS property soon. I am well on the way to attainig her. There are some true stories that are even more dramatic than this. One lady who has lived 17 years marriage with 3 older children preferred to leave everybody behind for her new love. Compared to that this is much better. It is my prarabda karma. Why you people are jealous on me.

dear frnd...nobody is jealous of u here..each one who is replying to u here is ur well wisher and trying to give u the best advice..dats wat we r all here for..trying to help out each oder..well,though u dont want to take genuine advice from anybody,i still want to tell u finally dat...before u decide dat u r going to make her leave the kid with her ex and all dat,r u sure she is tnkng the same way??a mother wud not even tnk of sumtng like dat..nd before u take any step further pls do tnk about the kid WHO WUD BE DEPRIVED OF ITS MOTHERS LOVE FOR THE REST OF ITS LIFE..

I told that a lady left 3 older children midway after 17 years marriage. Leaving less than one year old baby is nothing compared to that. There are so many stories of a married girl in love in this webpage forum itself. Smaple link is here

http://etalkindia.com/talk/love-frie...ster-love.html

http://etalkindia.com/talk/love-frie...ther-girl.html

I can only conclude you are jealous on me.