How to convience my parents who are very traditional for love marriage?
Hi M Payal 26 years old ..I m Hindu (Daivadnya Brahmin).I love a guy who is 4 years elder to me...He is a Jain.he belong s to a Well reputed family and his parents have also agreed for our relation.We know each other since from 8 - 10 months.He is very understanding,open minded,caring and responsible person.We are planning to move forward.but still now I have not informed my family about this.they are very traditional. They think that doing love marriage means its a black mark to their reputation and prestige.They are not my real parents.(They have just brought up me,he is my mother's bro,i have lost my parents at the early age of life as I was 5 years old).I dont want to hurt them but at the same time m sure that they will not except our relation.What shud I do?His parents are ready and we are planning for a court marriage first and then we are thinking to inform them.But the question is Would it be right to do so?how to proceed to inform them after court marriage.There is no one who can stand by my support on my side .What should I do?Please suggest.
Please somebody suggest me what to do.............
I am not finding anyone in my support what to do?please suggest .........one of my masi is there who stays in Ahmedabad she is bit broad minded .last time when she visited my place he had said me that if I have any one in my mind whom I like then i shud say her about that person but...........after she reached ahmedabad i tried to call her thrice to say her about us but she just ignored me ............so m not sure that whether she will b in my support or not.....please suggest me....what shud b my next step
Please Provide ur suggestions my friends
Hi friends............
After thinking deeply I just got one solution to just try to bring everything to normal M planning to arrange a get together between our two families becoz I think this is the only output what I can come with for my love story...Instead of just waiting and watching for support from others I think its just a waste of time.
I just went through all the flash back and came to a conclusion that I shud any hw plan a get together between the two families without knowing them and just bring in front of them like as if its a big surprise for them....
In the coming next to next week my would be in Laws are arriving at my place .So m thinking some how I shud gather even my family members by deciding a particular Venue and than disclose it to them in the presence of both the family members.M going to invite my Mama,Mami and Masi(These r my guardians ,as I dont have my own parents) and one more Masi who stays in ahmedabad and few supporters who can encourage me...
For that firstly I need to discuss with you'll my friends as to how I shud plan out or what shud I speak or how shud I start with.....
I need to even discuss this with my fiance b4 becoz he need to discuss with his mom and dad.....
My question to you'll is as to how I shud come up with like how to introduce or how to start with and keep my views in front of my family
Please those u view this please put up ur comments please.........
Thanks for sharing ur views...............
Aarish Bro..............Can u please give me some more suggestions...........wt asaam told I totally agree but His family stays in Rajkot(Gujarat )and my family stays in( karwar )Karnataka.Tickets milne mai hi 3 to 4 months lag jate hai.............and his father is a CA and he also cannot cum every now and then.And his mom cnt travel frequently because of health issues...and my family members wont go to rajkot.......and recently there is no such kind of any function or celebrations at our place for which I can plan out.....So not getting in my way..............
And above all my fiance is appearing for IELTS British council to move abroad........and we are planning that at the most hamara kuch marriage ka final ho gaye toh even I have to apply along with him so that within 6 month period we have to do this.......Otherwise again 1 year waste hoga becoz if we dont apply now then again next year tak we need to wait.........So I want that this time whn his family is arriving here tab hi kuch finalise ho jaye.......
So I really need u all to suggests ur views .......becoz more an more views will help me plan out please do the needful...........All of my friends please suggest
Thanks for sharing ur Views
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payal0210
Aarish Bro..............Can u please give me some more suggestions...........wt asaam told I totally agree but His family stays in Rajkot(Gujarat )and my family stays in( karwar )Karnataka.Tickets milne mai hi 3 to 4 months lag jate hai.............and his father is a CA and he also cannot cum every now and then.And his mom cnt travel frequently because of health issues...and my family members wont go to rajkot.......and recently there is no such kind of any function or celebrations at our place for which I can plan out.....So not getting in my way..............
And above all my fiance is appearing for IELTS British council to move abroad........and we are planning that at the most hamara kuch marriage ka final ho gaye toh even I have to apply along with him so that within 6 month period we have to do this.......Otherwise again 1 year waste hoga becoz if we dont apply now then again next year tak we need to wait.........So I want that this time whn his family is arriving here tab hi kuch finalise ho jaye.......
So I really need u all to suggests ur views .......becoz more an more views will help me plan out please do the needful...........All of my friends please suggest
So I really need u all to suggests ur views .......becoz more an more views will help me plan out please do the needful...........All of my friends please suggest