when DIVORCE is needed but avoided (by wife ) and delayed (by court)

I really don’t have anything against my wife, still have respect for her. In the beginning (1994) – I was much immature (perhaps in emotion and man woman relation till date) and due to some ego from my side, the distance made between us. And it was keep on increasing in several way in many forms. I tried many times to compromise and adjust- but I couldn’t. Several women came in my life (no one through professional life). Now I am realizing, before it’s further late for both of us, it has to be done. We are sleeping in different rooms last 13 months, didn’t intercourse last 18 months (not more than 6 in last 3 years). But I cant live in this manner anymore. I am regularly taking drugs for sleeping, pressure and cholesterol and ant depression as prescribed by physician. Before it affects my job performance, I want to end it. I can take everything else, but not a bad performance of myself at workplace.

1st I want to change my marital status. I can’t act anymore everyday in home, and want to be fair at least this time to my wife. I know lots of odds will come from my mother and relatives. I have to shift for a separate residence (like I did in July 2008), might face financial crunch also. But still I have to do this, my mother is also suffering last few months, guessing my mental condition, and unfortunately in spite of my trying - relation between wife and mother isn’t healthy yet. My wife stopped using Sindoor. I am 40 now, so still have some courage left. But after this it wont be possible. Even in my professional life, people wont take it easily. Still I want to take my own black spots, my failure- to the public, at least to the people who matters; cant play hide and seek game anymore. I stopped myself several times; thinking about my son, but truly speaking he almost doesn’t have any emotional relation with me. Its all my fault, as he saw, his mother is away from me- he also started maintaining a distance. So, please don’t say me to rethink this time. The issue was already pushed for 10years- but nothing changed. I shall fulfill all their (wife and son) other need like now, but not by staying together anymore. I know healthy parent relationship is essential for kids to grow. But the way I am living is not a healthy way, staying apart is a far better option surely.

Feelings of two human beings are involved in a couple’s married life. This could not be patched up by enforcement of law by courts. It is up to the individuals to mend themselves. A horse can be taken to water but it is the horse that should drink it. However, the law should not deny divorce if the marriage has really broken down. By forcing unity with a hammer in the hand, the law does not serve the sanctity attached to the institution of marriage by religions.
If the relationship of husband and wife wrecks beyond repair, what is wrong in recognizing that fact and allow them to live separately. How can one compel a wife or a husband to continue to live with spouse if they have fallen apart? If so compelled they would have to lead miserable life.

My wife knows all of these but still not ready to divorce me- "just for my son” and her status to society! How to tackle her and HONURABLE INDIAN COURT?

well hi....sir......... this is azhar.............there's one thing i'd like to tell here is that firstly...................u said several women came in ur life.............. i.e ..................apart from ur wife..................secondly there were many things between u nd ur wife that made differences inbetween u both...........coz of which even ur son went away from u..................now i'd like to ask u some questions which r pretty straight forward..............forgive me if i'm rude in ne way and sorry......but if in any circumstances........suppose u r very loyal to ur wife but suddenly u get to know that she had someone else whom she was seeing to after marriage then how would u feel...........certainly in this case ur son might've been in ur side if he knew this...........now the same applies here..................tell me sir how is she supposed to live wid the truth that u have someone else in ur life apart from ur son nd herself................she has lived for a long time wid this fact and then u one day realise that all u did was wrong nd u r sorry it'll take time for her to forgive u but don leave ur son nd ur woman for a reason that u can't screw up ur job just for this one reason that u can't live in that house............she has been living for so long in that place wid her son..............i konw convincing someone is very tough but not impossible.............sir i'd suggest u to take this as a challange try and convince her and i'm sure she'll get back to u...........love is never bout what u feel it's bout........how u mke ur partner feel what u feel..............express ur thoughts to her..............let her know that u r sorry..............unless u let anybody know that u r hungry.......no body will feed u right what u feel is inside she is not god to kow what u feel.............or u don know what does she feel for u...............sir plzzzzzzzzz..............i think u need think over this if no able i'll surely help u out wid this but they need u right now u need them right now so be calm...................work hard when u r at work...........don think bout this at work............think bout this when u r free...................plzzzzzzzzzzzzz............ ....sir giv it a try i'm sure u'll succeed...................do let me know what do u feel and plz tell me bout ur prob in detail...........waiting for ur reply do reply soon sir........................GOD BLESS U ND UR FAMILY....................TAKE CARE...............

well sir u did not reply what happend sorry if i hurt u sir...............