regarding love marriage SC family and higher caste

hello sir...
i m in love with a boy from last six years...
due to the caste difference my father is not ready for the marriage...but the boys paarents are ready for the marriage ..and dey want dere boy to get married soon...my mother and brother are bit ready for the marriage..the reason for not geting agree is dat d boy is SC(sikh) and we are hindu..and due to some of dere family past dey are nt accpeting this..bt the boy is realy gud and we cant live without each other..the boys paents is not giving me much tym to conivince my parents as already i had taken a lot...wat shud i do to convince my father??dey are saying no without evn knowing or meeting the boy...as dey feel insulted if they send me to a SC family..

Hi Friend,


Parental opposition has always been a cause of concern for many of love couples wanting to get married. You first need to understand, why your parents are against the match. Once the reason gets cleared, you can talk to them and tell them where and why you find them not right.

Here in your case, things are bit easy as the boy's parents are ready to accept you as their bride. Also, as you said, you have your mother and brother who is also somewhat ready for the marriage. Nobody in your family is actually worried about the guy's earning and financial background and they seem to be pretty much satisfied with his earnings and family background. The only concern for them is the caste difference. So, here we have the exact reason with us as to why your parents are against your match with the guy being SC(sikh) and you belonging to upper-middle hindu family.

Caste system is something that used to exists in int Indian culture couple of years ago. With India changing itself and adopting to more of western cultures, caste system is loosing its grip, but still you will people following it rigorously. You need to talk to your parents and explain them, what good will it be to you if you are married to a upper caste guy for whom you have no feelings at all. You need to explain them, the only thing your family should be considerate about should be his financial stability and if he can keep you happy and secure for the lifetime. If these two conditions are fulfilled, your parents shouldn't be bothered about anything else.

Moreover, if you find any difficulty in explaining things to them on your own, you both can arrange a meeting between both the families and let them discuss the matter as openly as they want, afterall its the matter of your life. See, there is always a difference when we talk to elders and try to convince them and when elders sit and discuss everything on their own. The discussion that they will have will definitely be of some level of maturity and seriousness.

So, I hope things will be fine once you sit and talk to your parents about the whole thing. Also, if you can, try to arrange a meeting between both the families once for them to discuss the things.