Hi,
I have been dating my boyfriend for the last nine months. We met abroad while we were studying in a foreign university and connected as we both came from the same city,background and values from India. However since the last 2 months we have been in a long distance. I came back after finishing my degree to look for work while he already got a job there.
He was always into partying and drinking and was open about it to me since the beginning. Sometimes he would make out with women at these parties, but that was clearly before I had entered into his life, thats what he claimed. He has had a 5 year old live-in relationship before and a fling as well which he told me about openly. I trusted him all along and agreed to his proposal for marriage, our parents have also consented.
However a month back he told he had a chat with his ex (she is also seeing someone). I wanted to see the content of the chat and what troubled me was that they discussed about their past relationship and how both learnt so much out of it and what each of them meant to each other because of that. What was also troubling was one line by him where he said "I learnt to sweet talk women and it really works!". For some reason I thought it referred to me and I do not think the term sweet talk is a positive term to use. I clarified with him and he said that it was only to make light conversation and had to reference to me. I carried on but my trust was a bit shaken.
Next he attended a party where all these guys drank a lot and took pictures, one of which had him standing with a guitar and 4 girls standing very close to him with their hands over him. His two shirts buttons were open. That day one of European girls asked him out but he refused saying he is committed. He told me all this himself and said it was all in fun because all the friends were meeting for the last time. The issue is how should I believe of what happened. He says he wants to marry me and loves me but this bothers me as well. I don't know if I am overreacting due to the long distance?
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