My four year old relationship ended on a very bitter note recently and my ex used very foul language and cuss words for me. He blamed me for all that I have to suffer and for the relationship not working out. Truth is he lied about his feelings and I trusted him all this while. With no reason, he wanted to end it all two years back. But me, not convinced about his baseless reasons like our different castes (which he knew very well at the beginning) and an age gap of 3 years (God knows how that is relevant). So I kept asking for a chance to work things out and sort out all the differences. Ours was a long distance relationship so we'd talk more on phone and meet less frequently like once in 2-3 months. But it just kept getting worse. I changed myself so much for him, he admits that. But he just doesn't understand how much I love him and keeps telling me that he never loved me. For two years he kept confessing his love to me, even fought on several occasions when I questioned or doubted his feelings towards me. Now when he won my trust, it was unbelievable for me and I thought with time it would all get better.
But it didn't. And now he's getting married to a girl from his own caste that his parents chose. I tolerated all that he said and did to me. But the very humiliating words and abusive language he used on phone and through SMS, is just too much for me. My fault being the fact that I loved and trusted this person and was ready to do all that's possible for the sake of our relationship. He says "what relationship were you trying to save? there was no relationship". He blames me for all the hurt I have to go through.
He threatens he'll call up my family and tell them to "control their crazy daughter" and finds pleasure in the fact that I stopped calling him after he threatened me as this gives him an impression that I got scared. Truth is I have addresses and phone numbers of many of his family members who I can call and inform about how he has been treating me but I just don't want him to react in any way. Maybe I am not making sense right now. I am just so stressed out. Its too depressing for me to understand that no matter how much effort you put in, its just a waste. The one who lies at the drop of a hat is the one who ends up being happy.
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