Hello, Iam a 25 year old gal(Non brahmin) in love with a brahmin guy of same age. We both are loving each other from past 3 years.He comes from a lower middle class family and his family is very orthodox. His parents are not much educated and his father was not in a good job position too. My parents are well educated and they both are working. Iam from upper middle class family. We have not yet informed our parents about our relationship. Because we thought we need to set few things before going ahead and telling them about our decision.Firstly, when we met we had just started with our career, since we faced lot of trouble with career it took us finally 3 years to settle down with a good job and an average good salary.We thought we should be well settled with our jobs before we talk about our marriage to parents.We faced lot of troubles in making our career. Apart from that he had loans to clear and his educational loan too. So we thought if he clears some of his loans then we will be free to take decision since his parents are financially dependent on him and as his brother.So along with settling our career we started fixing his debts too. We succeeded also to some extent even though not much or as we planned. His family is now planning to get his brother married off. But we are not sure how long they will take to do it since he is just 1 year elder to us.We wanted to show our parents that we are matured enough by doing all these things. But while doing all these things and trying to achieve our career and financial goals we have strained our relationship(with lot of fights and misunderstandings). And he has less time left to achieve financial things, convince his parents and make his brother get married and become ready to marry me in another 2years because iam already 25 and I dont want to be unmmaried after 27. Today we both are not feeling anything towards each other and we have frustated each other.We feel we both are not meant for each other and we don't feel love for each other. I wanted him to clear half of his debts and save some money for our marriage and future. I understand if u love someone, you have to accept whatever comes. I chose to be with him even after knowing his financial situation because I thought one should give importance to human being rather than money because money comes and goes but character is what decides you in the end.But at the same time, I want to be planned and organised and we plan our future. But he says it's wrong and Iam putting unnecessary pressure on him and we are different in this way. We both felt these achievements, which we thought will bring us together, has taken our happiness,peace,our bond and love.Iam not able to figure out what went wrong in between us?Can we still make our relationship work and tell our parents about our decision with all these difficulties (money,time, parents approval) get married with their blessings?Iam really confused about taking decision,please help me by sharing your thoughts.
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