I decided to post this question in here because most Indians out there know a lot about arranged marriages.
Hi,I'm a 27 year old Sri Lankan living in the Gulf.
I always wanted to get married to a Sri lankan girl ,but since I've been out of the country for 9 years (first for University and then work),it has been difficult to find a girl by myself.
Therefore I decided to ask my parents to find me several matches out of whom I select the girl I most interesting.
Now,the first problem is:
I want a courtship period of around 2 years before getting married. I also don't want to get engaged with her soon after getting to know her. I want to have a relationship for at least a year or so before getting engaged.This will give us time to develop love and mutual understanding.
So question number 1 is: Are there many girls out there who will like this kind of a long courtship period prior to an arranged marriage?
question 2 is: Are many parents out there ready to permit such a long courtship period?
The next part of the problem is that,as I live abroad I'll have to maintain a long distance relationship with her. This means I'll be keeping in touch with her through things like phone calls and skype.
However,I have one plus point. The nature of my job allows me to take a one month vacation,once 2 months (I work as an engineer in an offshore oil rig in Abu Dhabi). I spend my vacation in Sri Lanka. This will give me enough time to meet her personally. So I'll be having periods of long distance relationships and close relationships from time to time.
So my third question will be: Will I have a good chance of maintaining a good relationship during the courtship period in this way?
So,I hope for help and advise from uncles and aunties (or anyone with a good understanding of marriage arrangements) out there on these 3 questions. I wish to get as many answers as possible.
Thank you!
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