Hi all,
I have fought for this guy for over one and a half year by now. My wedding is fixed and due in another 1 month. My parents still do not talk to me very nicely but they are getting over it. My in laws family is good enough.
My worry is that, right after things looked almost perfect after so much of struggle, I slowly have started to feel that my boyfriend turned fiance is less concerned and interested in me. His job and sometimes I feel his family is all that he cares about. He will not show interest in talking to me and will always have some excuses like work or tiredness. He will promise to solve issues at my place and do nothing about it but just ask me to wait! He doesn't involve with my family members much and keeps a distance I feel. He will compare with me with all his family members saying that they don't complaint if he doesn't talk to him then why do i? How do I make it clear for him that these things are different? Everytime if I try to make him understand I feel he is barely listening to me to forget it as soon as I am done talking.
We used to be very close to each other when we were dating. Since when he has moved into his work life, there is no balance and that's all he wants and thinks of! He says that I should be proud of it, but how should I explain it to him that he is not right always, a woman needs her own place in a man's life.
I have compromised with his priorities for 3 years by now, when he was doing his higher studies and then 1 year of his job but now that the time of our wedding is coming closer, we are more of worried about how this relationship is going to work than thinking about our new life. He never wants to be blamed for anything, he has this belief that he is really smart and intelligent and whatever he does or thinks is right...I can't even think of making him understand that how much difficult he is making it for me!
I feel bad about my decision of convincing my parents for this wedding, because now if something goes wrong between us, I am scared that I wont have any support from anywhere now..there was a time when I used to feel safest when he used to be around me but now I am scared every time I think of us together.
I am compromising with my job life, my family, my entire friend circle is left behind just for this one person and he doesnt seem to want to make it right anyhow.
When earlier friends used to ask me about us, I used to be excited, but now I just avoid it. We do not say I love to each other anymore, and I dont feel it too...
My wedding is exactly a month away and I feel this is not right.
Please help me, I do not want to repent for the entire life once I am locked in this. May be for the sake of my parents I would not be able to take any step which I can take at this point.
Scared to death.
Disha
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