Hi All,
I am 25 years old and I have a younger brother who is 23 years old. This query is for him because for years I have been wondering if he is mentally sick. It shouldnt be late now if medicines can really help him or say us.
Since childhood my brother has been poor in studies but always active when it comes to electrical things. He barely passed his school and got into engineering college where he took up electrical branch. Surprisingly he did brilliantly well in his academics there and passed with honors. But meanwhile we started to see abnormal changes in his behavior. He is too helping and caring when it comes to be a brother or a son but he and my father doesnt go along well because of wide thinking mismatch. But rather then forgetting this he keeps taunting my father. Every time he comes home, he will say something or the other which will hurt my father. Any topic on which their views din't match! My father is 54 years old and have suffered from heart attack and paralysis. He gets very short tempered too. But he has separated himself from all of us because of my younger brother's misbehavior. He locks himself in a room and keep staring at the wall.
I too am a reason for his low health in disinterest because it took me more than 2 years to convince him for my marriage with my bf. But now he is okay too because him and my finace go along nicely. He is quite cheering when my fiance is around. But I always want to see him happy like this, given my brother cools down his temper.
Arguing is nothing, but my brother has even done suicidal attempts 3-4 times by now out of despair. Cutting his wrist and trying to pull a rope across his face, such things he did when small arguments grew so much between him and my father that he thought his life is useless.
Individually they both are very likable personalities to people around but together their is so much heat. Me and my mother at times stuck, mainly my mother. She doesn't know whom to quiet down.
When my brother was 8-9 years old, for a while he was on psychiatric medicines because of his abnormal and short temperament but my father worried that it will make him think that he is mad and stopped the medication!
But now it is getting difficult to deal with him. He is very aggressive, blackmails my mom and dad - he will break stuff at home, cut his wrist things like that. He will lock himself in a room, listens to song loudly to cool him down i guess but in the moment he spoils everything. He will help my mom in kitchen and with other stuff but all in vain when he goes wild for small arguments. He is hypocrite too. He can cuss you but you can't or else he will break stuff at home. Breaking chairs, mugs, throwing things is his way of black mailing him. No body can tell him a word.All my elders who are close to him have tried it but no help.
Do you think psychiatric treatment can help him? He himself says at times take me to a Dr. How to deal with it now? Can I meet the doctor alone and explain this to him/her?
Please please help. I can't leave my parents alone with him if he doesn't grow up.
Thanks in advance.
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