Shall I quit 5.5 years old relationship because our parents are against it.
I am in relationship with a girl from last 5.5 years. Initial two years we were together when I was working & staying in Delhi. But, from 3.5 years it converted into a long distance relationship as I moved to another city for MBA program then for 2nd job that too in a different city.
I am 28 working in MNC at a descent position and she is 25 working as well as pursuing her master's. I have tried my level my best to keep this relation alive and never thought of any other girl. Nine months back I got to know that this girl got engaged to some other guy when I moved to another city. After knowing all this I threatened her too much but she begged me, put all sorts of requests to give her another chance. Although against my will I decided to give her another chance as I loved her deeply.
Now we are planning to marry but both of our parents are completely against our relationship. So, I am in a fix whether I shall go for court marriage but I don't want to hurt any of our parents. She has became my weakness, knowing all the consequences I am unable to leave this girl and move on. My father's health is not well being the youngest he is insisting me to get married to another girl.
Today I have everything to keep this girl & our families happy as I am well settled & independent. Sometimes I blame myself why moved for MBA program in the end I am loosing everything because at that time she tried to stop not to move to another city and leave her alone.
Please help me to come out of this trauma.
Thanks Sir for your reply.
Thanks for your reply Sir. I would like to clarify this girl was not engaged however moved to another relationship in my absence i.e. when we were having long distance relationship. When I got to know about her another relationship through some sources she accepted her mistake and told that it was just an infatuation, her mind got diverted because of too much caring by that guy instead she still loves me. She tried to convince me through all ways and promised that nothing such will happen in future.
However, I was not at all interested to carry-on this relationship I just thought that I loved her deeply so lets give her a chance. Mistakes are made by human beings, but sometimes even today this thing pinches me that this girl has deceived me once. Now, nothing looks fine I have tried alot to ask her to arrange a meeting when I can meet her parents but she said her parents are not at all interested. Her mother had already denied me for this relationship twice over phone.
My family is also against my relationship and asked me "do whatever you like but don't expect anything from us in future and we will never accept you at any cost".
The girl says that if she would have tried she could have moved long back but she loves me truly that is why she wants to be with me. I don't why I still want to be with her knowing all consequences. I am in die lama whether I shall take chance of my whole life by leaving my family and going with this girl when this girl has deceived me once and when future prospects for both of the families seems terrible.
She is asking me to meet her in person for the last time.
Thanks to both of you for your time and opinion. I would like to mention I quit from this relationship in Jan.2013. But, again I contacted her two weeks ago when she was sending me all sorts of sms: loving, threatening, harming herself, etc. I again asked her I wanted to talk to her parents and in the whole two weeks she was not able to arrange even a conference call with her parents. I also asked I will come to Delhi even though I was not in position to take leaves from company. But, only thing she conveyed to me is that her parents are not interested at any level.
Then, both of us decided for break up. After taking mutual break up she sent sms that she has just one last wish that I shall go to Delhi and meet her in person. I don't want to see her face because I know if I will become emotional again and might change my decision of break up which I have taken with a heavy heart. Shall I go to Delhi to fulfill her last wish to meet her in person.
Secondly, my father is pressurizing me for marriage as his health conditions are not well. But, I don't want to spoil life of any other girl when I can't love another girl.
Sometimes, I feel what I have achieved in my life, what was the use of leaving Delhi for the sake of my career, which all I set to have much better job. Now, I have a good job, financial stability but this seems to be biggest defeat of my life where I have invested 5.5 years of my life with full commitment & dedication.