In love with Ex-friend who is married-Puzzled and confused

i have a gf from 6 yrs (only friend), she was divorced at that time and I was married. she was my good friend at that time but I realize that she loves me then after some times after that she got married today she is having a child also then all is ok
After her marriage we didn't keep any communication for more than 3 yrs but now she is again in contact with me as she need my help now i feel that i m in love with her and she also daily talk with me that she says she feels very relax and happy talking with me, i don't know what will happen ahead pls guide.

Hi rahul_1972,


Frankly enough you are misleading yourself by believing that you have fallen for her. Love is not something that vanishes off when you get married. Instead it remains deep down there just over burdened by daily life and tensions around. But let me tell you dear, you still love your wife. If you are thinking that you have fallen for your friend after such a low contact phase, then obviously you are mistaken.
Understand, you are married and have a life. You must be having kids and their future is what should bother you in a while. Doing anything wrong will definitely put you all in trouble. You will ruin many lives including yours and your wife's who has been loyal to you from so long.
So, I believe you should not hurt your wife...and should not think about anything which seems fancy from distance but is very troubling once to get near it and try to experience it.