Intercaste marriage in Arya Samaaj- is it valid in court ?

hello there..

i got married in aryaa samaj mandir on 7th January and got registered on 9th January with my boy friend after having 4 yrs. affair without our parents permission. my family was in knowledge that i am in relationship but there is no knowledge about this in guy family....... and got separated on 10th January'14 after threatening.. as our parents are not agree with our marriage. i am from punjabi family and guy is from rajput family & he is working from 2 yrs. as a software developer. now my parents want me to get another marriage according to their wish.

my problem is that that on the day when we got separated my father was agreed but my guy family is not ready to take me home with them. as by this my father got angry and now my father changed his decision and not to get agree with our marriage. also he has a point that is our marriage is not done in gurudwara sahib then court will also not accept this marriage.... and so by this they have a point not to accept our marriage....

after that, we both in contact by e-mails...
we decided that for once my 'husband' will come to my home town and talk to my family but its become so risky because both families don't want to make any contact with each other..

what is right and what is wrong we i haven't any idea... how to solve this problem... and what points he should take in his mind while talking to my family at this drastic situation......


should he take protection before coming to talk?
we don't want any police case....or f.i.r.
plz hlp us ....