Learning to Forgive.......

It is really true indeed that when we don't accept anybody doing mistakes............then what happens when u make a blunder out of urself............what when u make a mistake should others accpet u..........a big question right................so go ahead read the writeup maybe u find a solution.......... ;)


Learning to Forgive...........

Learning to forgive is often difficult. Forgetting is even more difficult. When people offend you by saying and doing things to you that cause you to be upset or angry, the very idea of forgiveness may be far from your mind. You may have been robbed, physically assaulted, lied on or even worst.

Regardless of what has happened to you, learning to forgive is for your sake; not for your offender. It is also an act of your will. You must forgive no matter what. Not only does God command it, if you don't forgive you will be suffering while the person that has hurt you has moved on with his or her life.

Replaying over and over again in your mind what has happened to you will eventually cause you to be in a state of dis-ease. Why give another human being that kind of power? Learning to forgive and forget doesn't mean you let someone walk all over you while you smile in silent pain. Forgiveness is choosing to release your offender into the hands of God Almighty and allowing Him to take care of the hurt along with the person who has hurt you. You move on with your life.

Learning to forgive and forget is not an easy process but you can consciously set your will to do so and begin your process of healing. Try the following things to help you learn to forgive and ultimately forget.

* Consider that your offender may have some deep seeded issues in his or her past that could be causing the behavior towards you.

* Pray and ask God to help you forgive the person. Having an open heart with a willingness to forgive is the first step.

* This one is difficult but you can do it: Consciously do something nice for the offending person. It doesn't have to be a major production. It can be as small as a buying them a cup of coffee; although they may be hesitant to drink it if they know good and well what they have done (smile). This can open a doorway for you to forgive but also for the person to apologize. However, even if you never get an apology, you have done your part. That's when you proceed to keep it moving.

* Seek professional counseling if you are finding it just too difficult to forgive. Your life is at stake here. Get help from others if necessary.

* Remember your own past. Think about times when you have been an offender and others have forgiven you. It doesn't matter how big the offense. What may appear small in your eyes may have affected the other person in a bigger way than you may realize.