Married with Muslim boy-Disturbed from Society thinking it crime

HI

I am hindu girl married with muslim boy we are happy & living together and me & his family, friends are also happy with our relations. but i think society peoples are not happy with us. Yahi sab soach kar mera mann bahut upset rehta hai maine kuch galat kar liya kya har time god se pray karti rehti hu ye kya hogaya kaise logo ko face karungi, meri ise intercast marriage ke log crime samanjne lage hai. Mujhe apne hubby or uski family se koi problem nahi hai even they are very supportive in everytime.But society ke log kabhi accha bolte hai kabhi galat bolte hai main ye sab nahi tolerate kar sakti. Please help how i can face this situation. mujhe dar lagta hai in sabka asar humare relation ke karab na karde.

Hello Dimple Khan,

Dekhiye Dimple bohot hi simple si baat hai, aap ek aise desh aur aise samaaj mein rehti hain jahan logon ke sochne ke alag-alag tareeke hain, unke vichaar, unki soch alag -alag hai. Kahin par kayee aise bhi log hain jo aapki iss shadi se sehmat hain, khush hain aur unko kabhi koi problem nahi hui hai ( jaise ki aapke parents aur friends ) lekin wahin par kayee aise log bhi hain jinhe iss rishte se problem hai.

Aapko yeh samjhne ki zarurat hai ki naa hum logon ki soch ko badal sakte hain aur naa hi hum apni kismat ko, lekin agar hum kuch kar sakte hain toh yeh hai ki hum unn logon ki baaton ko nazarandaaz kar sakte hain jinki baatein aur taane humme pareshan karte hain.

Bas yahi main kehna chahunga, jab tak aap apni zindagi aur apne faislon se khush hain, tab tak aapko dusron ki soch aur samjh ko lekar pareshan nahi hona chahiye. Sabse badi baat toh yeh hai dost ki aapke parents aur aapki friends aapke iss rishte ko support karte hain. Jab aapke paas apno ka sath hai tab aapko pareshan hone ki koi zarurat nahi hai. Logon ka kaam hai bolna. Humme apni zindagi se zyada dusron ki zindagi main kya chal rha hai, usmein zyada mazaa aata hai. Toh inn cheezon ko aap rokk nahi sakti hain aur naa har insaan ko iss duniya mein samjha sakti hain ki jo bhi aapne kiya woh sahi hai ya galat.

Aapne unse shaadi ki hai toh zaahir si baat hai soch samjh kar hi ki hogi aur chunki aapki family aapko support kar rhi hain toh mujhe nahi lagta aapko logon ki baaton ko sun kar pareshan hona chahiye. After all yeh iss nikah se aap khush hain aur aapke chahne walon ko bhi koi dikkat nahi hai.


Toh bas itna hi kehna chahenge ki jo bhi woh log hain jinki baatein aapko pareshan karti hain unhe ek baar samjha dijiye ki yeh aapki zindagi hai aur yeh aapke liye gye faisle hain jin par aapko poora bharosa hai aur aap khush hain. Sath hi unko yeh bhi batane ki zarurat bhi hai ki agar woh aapko pasand nahi karte hain toh unhe aapse koi rishta rakhne ki ya aapki zindagi main dakhal dene ki koi zarurat nahi hai.

Pyaar se samjha kar dekhiye agar logon ko samjh mein ata hai toh achcha hai aur agar woh aapke iss faisle se khush nahi hain toh mere hisab se unse doori banane main hi bhalayi hai.

Main bas itna aur kehna chahunga iss forum par kayee aise logon aate hain jinhe kisi aise se pyaar hota hai jo unki caste ya unke mazhab se nahi hota aur aksar aise cases mein woh apna pyaar nahi paa paate. Toh agar aap iss forum par humme yeh bta saken ki aapki shadi kaise huyi aur kaise aapne apne parents ko iss rishte ke baare main raazi kiya toh hum aapke tahe dil se shukriya ada karenge. Humare hisab se toh aapne jo kiya hai woh sachh mein kaabil-e-taarif hai aur hum chahenge ki aap apni kahaani yahan iss forum par share karen.


Thank You Dimple.

Make it short, just ignore them, there is very simple rule, don't try to change others, rather change yourself or else things will turn dirty. So as per my advice, don't expect people to change, Indian Society will take some time, may be next 5-10 years and after that things will be so easy. Change yourself and ignore them. Cast-ism is so deep rooted in India society.

Also, ya, that is true, you could be inspiration for many who come here and seek advice for inter-caste marriage. You are infact blessed that you were able to marry your LOVE and even his parents are supporting to you.

thank you for solving my problem

It is said that whatever happens in our lives is destined and nothing happens without God’s will.

humara relationship ko 7 years ho gaye hai aur humari marriage ko 3 years. main apni friends ke sath daily gurudware jati thi bas wahi par humari friendship hui. after 2 -3 years mere parents ne mujhe sa shadi ke baat ki tab maine unhe apne relation ke bare mein bataya wo log itne shocked ho gaye tum kya kahe rahi hu and mujhe bahut samjaya & baat karni band kar di and kuch time baad maine aur mere hubby ne apne apne parents ko acche se baat ki aur apne hubby se milwaya aur uske baad bhi wo nahi mane. Humne wait kiya aur jab tak aap log permission nahi dogay tab tak hum kuch bhi galat kadam nahi uthangay.
Suddenly, after 1 year mere parents ne mere hubby ko apne ghar bulaya aur unki family se mili aur acche sa sab kuch dekha samja unhe aur uske baad vo convince ho gayi aur apne acche aur bure ki tum khud hi responsible ho. Humne ye decide kiya tha ki Coat Marrigage hogi. Suddenly mamma ne kaha mujhe to hindu ritual se shaddi karni and hubby ke parents wants nikah, apni family ke bina bateye hubby mein mandir mein phere lena ko maan gaye par koi bhi mandir without parents ke marriage karne ho raji nahi the aisa lag raha tha ki sab taraf se raste band ho gaya sabi relative ko invite kar diya tha reception party ke liya, kisi ek gurudware main humare phere hue
insab mein humari sisters & friends ne bahut help kiya after coat marriage Reception party throw ki gayi and next day in-laws ne apne ghar nikah kiya. hum dono ne apni apni family ko promise kiya ki hum dono religious ko follow karengay aur aaj bhi hum Diwali & Eid dono acche se celebate karte hai.

Main bas yehi kahna chaungi apne friends ko jo apne pyar ke liye fight kar rahe hai please god par vishwas rakhiya aur bina kuch galat kadam uttaye apne apne families ko convince kariye main janti hu kisi bhi parents ke liye accept karna bahut mushkil hai.

Hello Dimple Khan,

Shukriya toh humme aapka ada karna chahiye jo aapne apni poori kahani humme bataiye. Roz naa jane kitne aise log iss forum par aate hain jo intercaste marriage ko lekar pareshan hote hain. Inmein apne pyaar ke liye kuch bhi kar jane ka hosla bohot hota hai par samaj aur parivaar walon ki wajah se ya unki khushiyon ki wajah se yeh log bhaag kar shadi ya koi bhi galat kadam uthane se darte hain. Har insaan ka yeh sapna hota hai ki unke parents, unke gharwale sab log uski shaadi mein shaamil hon aur unko aashirwaad dein, lekin jab inke parents tayaar nahi hote tab yeh log yahan aate hain aur humse ek choti si madad ki umeed karte hain.

Main asha karta hoon aapki yeh post padh kar unhe cheezein samjh mein aye aur unke liye yeh mushkil asan ho jaye.
really, bohot bohot shukriya aapka dimple yahan humse apni baat share karne ke liye. Kabhi kisi bhi mushkil mein aap jab chahein humme yaad kar sakti hain. Humme khushi hogi ki hum aapke kaam aa saken.

Thank you...!!

Why Peoples are against hindu muslim marriages, aaj ke time log other religious ke logo se dosti kar lenge unke ghar chalen jayenge everything done with them but marriage ke time me issue create karte hai and gossip karte hai.

It will still take some time, Indians are more connected to religion than western world, it is quite confusing when there is an intercaste marriage. There first question is always about children, which God they will worship though most of the religion says there is only one God but still there is "Its my God, its your God" and so on.

Hello Friends,

Mein aapse apni story pehle bhi share kar chukhi hu...after 4 years my In-laws forcing me learn muslim culture like reading namaz & eat chicken etc....but i can learn only namaj but can't eat chicken. Mere In-laws humare sath nahi rahte hum delhi mein hai aur wo UP mein. But kabhi yaha ate hai ya hum waha jate hai. But problem ye hai ki mere hubby ke samne kabhi mujhe force nahi karte unki absence mein mujhe baat karte hai. Jab maine apne husband se ye sab problem share ke to he said tume kuch bhi forcefully karne ki jarurat nahi hai jab tumare mann ho tab karna. He said mein unse baat karunga aur tumhe waha jane ke jarurat nahi hai. Ab mujhe feel hota hai life bahut lambi hai main idon't want mere wajah se wo apni family se fight kare. Maine jab unse alag hone ki baat ki to he said main insabse door chalajaunga mujhe kisi ke need nahi hai na family ke na tumari. because he can't live without me But vo kab tak mere liye fight karenge unki family bahut sticks hai ya to relation spoil kar lenge par baat nahi manegay. Kabhi to intna accha behave karege inse acche shyad koi in-laws hai hi nahi suddenly ek dam opposite. Meri sister-in-law ne bhi christian se love marriage ke hai but ladke ko muslim banaya tha than Shadi ke thi now she is following both rituals. Beti kar sakti hai par beta aur bahu nahi..

Me & my hubby we love each others a lot and we also respect both ritual aur meri family aur wo acche se adjust ho gaye hai. I am very tensed i can't live without him because i love him very much. But unki family ke sath adjust karna bahut tuff hai abhi to hum saprate hai incase kabhi future mein eksath adjust nahi kar sakti. But hubby said again & again mein hu tumhe koi problem nahi hogi. But wo bhi mere liya kab tak fight karenge ya to relations spoil honge ya humara rishta. 4 years tak sab kuch itna accha chal raha tha suddenly wo kuch dino ke aye aur unki maan ke sabhi feelings samne aagayi.. mein unki family ko unse dur karke bhi nahi reh sakti hai hubby to kahte hai mujhe baat karne do relation spoil hote hai to hone do. Please advise what can i do....