Originally Posted by
Pulkit
Hi Designer,
If you go by law, then, in every case you have all the rights to choose your life partner. But, what separates is the emotions you have for your parents. They are the ones who have put in the best of your efforts to make you what you are, to give you what you have and to make your own identity in the world. Now, by this token, they have COMPLETE RIGHTS over you to stop you from getting into any troubles. In a way dear friend, YOU are in debt of all that they have done for you. For whatever you are today, its completely because of your parents and their efforts in making it possible.
You behaving really immature today. Try considering this, tomorrow you will have kids, you will work really hard to make them a good citizen and a decent personality, secure a good job in future and have a decent foothold in life. But when all of a sudden your kid comes to you with his/her girlfriend/boyfriend telling you that I want to marry this person else I give a damn to you. How would you feel ? I understand you would not stop your child from falling in love with someone he/she likes, but you would always want him/her to be in secure hands, isn't it ?
Same is the thing happening here. Her parents are just concerned for her safety and well-being. If you try to impose things on them, or even try to take a negative step, it will give them a good reason for not marrying their daughter to you.
Also, as you said above They are very clear that we can marry u anywhere else but not with the boy of ur wish. he is not good at all. shows that they are not adamant on her marrying to someone she loves. But they are only worried to her marrying to you because their elder son-in-law has given some false information about you.
Now, suiciding or eloping away will only prove their elder son-in-law right and you wrong. And this is not the solution. All the threats given is their way of keeping you both apart. But since you truly love her and want her, these threats cannot stop you.
All I want you to do is, stay silent, relax a while, think of doing something that can prove you right, that can make them realize your love for her and that can make them doubt on whatever was told to them by their son-in-law. Don't go for radical measures of ending your life or eloping away. This will 100% put you guys in big trouble.
If they are not ready to meet you, you impose yourself on them. There must be somebody who you think will/can atleast listen to you. There must be some person whom you might talk to and explain your unpleasantness - may be her brother, sister, father, uncle, mother anyone ?
If you keep your efforts on, keep on insisting them to talk to you or listen to you once, allow you to prove your love, allow you to prove your worth, then there are chances that they will atleast for once listen to you - " Okay Designer ! Tell us what you have to say ? "...or something like that. Plus their own daughter is forcing them so that will give you a support.
I believe no parents are as hard as rock that they cannot be melted.
Also, until and unless you involve your family into it, nothing can be done. Since your family is not ready for the marriage because of caste etc, its time when you should talk to them first and convince your parents for the marriage. Atleast one side should get ready, we can take care of the other side later.