I am 29 yrs old and searching a partner for arranged marriage, I met this a gurl who is 27, who's parents called up at my home for proposal. I called up this gurl and we spoke for for almost a week and decided to meet. she was totally carzy person with full of life and wanted to do so many things on her wishlist. We met, had a few drinks in a carzy style in my car. she started telling me about her past failed relationships, which i was completly ok wid. and she aslo said is she comepletly over it. both of us had a awesome time. then we still continued to talk and meet up again for a movie and she took me to her fav place we had few drinks and she got high. while i was dropping her back she started crying and cribbing about her past relationships, she blamed her parents for the same and i tried to console her and she started talk dont fall for me and she doesnt want to get married n stuff. after thsi we still takled and she told me. one day all of sudden she went to out of town for the weekend, which i belive is to meet some guy for mariage proposal, which didnt work out but after few days she dropped me a msg saying she doesnt see me as husband material and we can continue as friends. all this while she was mataining that she needs a time, whenever i used put that odd Qs. we used talk for long hours for all dis time but suddenly she lost interest.

We still are in touch and i keeping ping her, which she surely responds, but doesnot initiate any thing, we met once for a drink after that, and she said he has not anyone and she may probably marry wherver her parents want. I like dis gurl , but i am not sure what to do . All during her talk i found that she is depressed and confused, she changes her word evry now and then, but i m very sure she is very true person and doesnot lie to me.

I would really like to be with her, but i m not sure what she thinks abt me and what shoudl i do.? pls help

Hii Rahul,
Thank you for writing to us,
Well, I think you should give her some time to think n in the mean while u may still try to consol her n support her to come to a decision but as a friend dont get too much carried away for now n dont try to push anything or force yourslf on her, if u truly like her, make her understand your worth by supporting her through this rough phase of her life, stand as a strong pillar besides her to make her realize that u are the right one for her, see she is going through a phase of life where she is depressed and upset, this is the time for you to help her overcome her anxiety and difficult phase of her life n make her smile and eventualy time may settle things for you...it is too early for u to rush for such a big decision, take time to know her get close to her n den ask her for marriage