Hi,
I have been married for about 2 months and my life has become like a hell during this period. I came to know that my wife has an affair for past 4-5 years and from that day the things started to go wrong for me. It all started as:-
I got engaged in March this year. I selected the girl by seeing her sobberness and innocence from her face like she was wearing an indian suit and looking very simple and polite. and that was what i was looking in a girl. So i said yes and we got engaged. on the day of our engagement she asked me, whether i have any problem with her wearing jeans tops and in doing her a job. I said i have no problem with that. But from the second day, i started noticing that she is involved a bit extra in Whatsapp chat. I found her online on whatsapp all day, started from morning 6-7 am throughout the day. I asked her, with whom you chat all the day. Then she said she has a big friend circle. I asked whether she also has boys in her friend circle. She said, yes, she also has boys in her circle. Having boys in her friend circle was not acceptable to me. Because if someone is your just friend, then he can't be online for you from early morning (6-7 am). I asked her, does she has an affair. She said no. But after some days i enquired about her and came to know that she has a relationship with a guy, but his name is not sure. Things were going like this way and finaly we got married.
After 4 day of marriage, she went to her home for 2 days stay. I dropped her and came back to my home. The next day i went to her home without informing her. Then i found that, she was talking to someone and when i entered the room, she stopped talking. I asked her, whom she was talking, she said, one of her friend (girl). I took phone from her hand, called the person and found that he is a boy not a girl. I found details about that no. and came to know that, it was the same guy name that i enquired about, but was not sure earlier, I asked her. Initially she misguided me with wrong information, but then she told me that she knows the guy from last 4-5 years and she liked him and wanted to marry him, But he was from lower caste, so she could not married her. Now the guy is married and has a child also.
She said she doesn't call him anymore and has no relation with him, But i can't trust her, because she always betrayed me by telling lies. She is also very much frank to boys and feels no hesitation in sharing her mobile no. with them. I have problem with her involvment with boys and her over smart kind of nature. I don't want to loose her, because i love her. But i can't accept her this kind of nature and can't live with her in this situation, cause i remain upset all the day.
Please suggest me, what is the proper solution of this problem.
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