I was in a 2 yr relationship with a man 7-8 yr older than me when i was preparing for engineering exams. Within few months of it, i got to know he's married and has a daughter too. I felt shocked and discussed the matter with him. he accepted that he lied to me but asked me not to move out as things were not fine bw him n his wife. he used to live alone and his wife used to live in another city with her parents. he said income difference ws d main reason that his wife doesn't want to live with him and make fun of him.
he was such a wonderful and charming person that i decided to be with him or you can say i was a fool. Well when i got admission in 1 of prestigious engg clg & continued my relationship, I gt to know he had another child with her wife. I was just frustrated that time and tried to talk him once. We discussed the matter at his home and decided to break it up. Then I was busy in my clg life(i was academically good and clg pressure kept me engage all the time), he used to call me once in a while..but i started shouting and ignoring him by that time. But sometimes I used to cry not for him, but for what I have done i.e. ruining some1's married life. (I always use to wonder about my guilt)
Few months later a guy in the clg proposed me. I denied. he continued proposing me several times. We started with friendship and later I too began to have feelings for him. I told him everything about my past, except one thing. That I was not aware of the fact that my x is married. (till today my closest of friends don't even know this thing bcoz of the fear that they'll hate me).
Me and this clg guy are in a love relationship for more than 6 yrs, we did our masters together, now we are in jobs in different companies. I am so happy with him, we are planning to get married by the end of this year or starting of next year.
2months ago i got an e-mail from my x. He said he was missing me so much. I didn't reply. One day, i replied him and asked for his number (i always had this question in my mind that why he did all this to me). He refused initially but later shared it. I called him up and we talked for 3-4 minutes about each others' well being and lives. One night he called me, he was drunk and said he still loves me and can do anything for me. I decided not to talk to him. In the next morning he apologized for yesterday's behavior.
I rang him 2 days before and asked everything. I got to know he has a 3rd child too. Still he does not lives with his wife, but visits them once in a month. He asked me to come back. He said he lied to me..just because of the fear of losing me.His wife still taunts him by my name. (his reaction when i talked to him @night)
he knows about my bf and i told him that im getting married. he felt very happy and said atleast one of us should have a good life and blessed me (his reaction when i talked to him @ next morning)
Both of his reactions are contradictory. I am doubtful as always.
I know i should not trust this person again. Even I am not trusting him anymore. but the thing is, his married life is ruined and he's all alone. I think it is because of me.
My question is whether i should feel the burden of his staggering marriage or not. I decided not to talk to him and he also promised me of not calling..then I cried like anything after all these communication. How do I get over feeling pity for him. I am feeling
(only serious replies pls)
Advert.