Hi Everyone,
I have a really Unique Problem and i am going nuts..
Well i am 24, and have done wmy Bachelors of Engineering in Computers and have been working for the last two years. I am in a relationship for the last two years with a 19 year old. She is currently doing her First Year BDS. We really love each other.
We have both not told in our families about us. Last week my mother found a greeting card which she had given me and started questioning me about it. I denied being in a relationship and somehow got her to calm down. I did share this with my girl friend. She was fine about whatever i said.
After a week of this she just randomly asked me to marry her. Though she had earlier told me that she wanted to marry young, preferably by the age of 18, this came to me as a surprise as i was not ready to marry yet. She said she always wanted to do something spontaneous for marriage and she did not want to wait for me and she proposed. I initially thought it was a joke but she was serious. So i took time to answer.
She took this in the wrong way and now we are having a lot of problems. She wants to be married by the 22nd of December. Before this she wants me to tell my family that i am getting married.
The reason we are having problems is that she says that the one thing that was holding her on to this relationship was the faith that someday we would get married and due to this she was able to overlook all the bad things and due to my not saying yes immediately, this is gone!! She also says that all her life, people made her feel unwanted and she had faith that i would say yes and not make her feel the same way. There were a few stupid things i had said in the start of the relationship which caused her to believe(she does till day) that she is not my type.
If i tell my family, i am in a relationship, let alone tell them i am marrying, i am sure to be kicked out. My relationship with my family is as it is not very good due to a lot of reasons. I am not really settled in life to walk out on my family.
She wants to now break this relationship up and find someone who will marry her without waiting(She feels 2 years is long enough) and also someone whose family approves of it. Her parents are separated but she feels that they wont have a problem with her marrying young. After a lot of speaking, she now says that i will never let her leave me so she will be with me and the day it gets to much she will kill herself. She says the only two ways this will now end is if i leave her or she kills herself.
I really need help since i am stuck and dont know what to do. I really love her and do want to marry her, though not now. We used to stay in the same city but for the last 2 months are in different cities. Further more, i might be moving abroad in a few weeks time and this complicates matters since the abroad opportunity is really lucrative.
Please suggest to me what i can do. Its driving me mad.
Thanks
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