Originally Posted by Nagalakshmi

Hi.you must have read the post posted by K.P.Arun. I am his girl friend but he didnt mention the exact story what happened between us. Here I go, truly LOVE is such a beautiful feeling but people experiencing it will come to know that Love has another drastic face called "PAINFUL DEATH. We had the feeling of love for a long time within ourselves but expressing it outside took sometime. Those days were so happy. I was all the time walking on CLOUD NINE. I admired everything he does. In a simple way " I LOVED HIM SO MUCH". I felt my life is perfectly complete with him. I was happy with Arun. But a very very bad day started in my life and till this second I am struggling, crying and infact dont know when my life ends due to this depression. Before that I need to mention that when I said yes to Arun for expressing his love, I told to my parents that I told I love Arun. My parents gave GREEN SIGNAL to our love but my dad insisted him to bring his parents to home for talking about marriage issues. I and Arun were so happy. We didnt expect that my parents will say immediately yes to it. Now here, a twist came to my smooth happy running life. One day Arun went to his home to talk to his parents about our relation, HORRIBLE DRASTIC PAINFUL THINGS HAPPENED. His dad made call to my parents and spoke very bad about my nature, his mom told that I mixed posion and gave food to Arun and that why his son got changed. His elder brother spoke so bad to me and he didnt respect my dad who is so elder to him. His brother is just one year elder to me and he told my dad to keep me in control. They spoke very bad hurting words. My parents were so depressed on that day and told me to forget him. Arun's dad started forwarding all the messages from Arun's mobile to my dad's mobile. I felt so ashamed to face my dad becoz those messages were so personal between me and Arun. BUT TILL TODAY MY DAD DIDNT ASK EVEN A WORD ABOUT THOSE MESSAGES TO ME. Overall I am wounded deeply till now

I have read your problem, As per my opinion you should consult with an astrloger or a love guru for getting rid off your problems. They will definitely provide you best solution for your problem. And you should try to start your life in a new way.

See. Honestly, HE IS NOT WORTH.
you v done SO much for him , NO GIRL will do all this in 2012 TRUST ME.
He doesnot DESERVE your love im telling you.
I know its easy for me to type stuff here, and i really understand what situation you are in,but GET OVER IT.
Come on , so much abuse , so much unwanted talks , so much nonsense and he gives a DAMN about this. What on earth ? He expects you to keeep trying and pushing hard stuff and he does NOTHING in the receiving end? WHATS THE WHOLE POINT?
ASK HIM STRAIGHT ON HIS FACE, If he REALLY wants you in his life or not. If he says yes, Ask him to convince his mum , the heartless sister and the brother of him within a month, if not ask him to get out of the family. Im sure he wudnt leave his family for you. BUT YOU? you are ready to do anything , ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. This is NOT how things should go. A relationship should be SHARED btw the two of you. You dont deserve this pain and hurt. You are one awesome woman and there is some EXTREMELY lucky guy waiting for you. GO GET HOLD OF HIM. You deserve to be treated like a princess. cos your parents have brought you up that way. Go give them a hug. talk to them. pour your heart. Take your time. and then go get hold of your prince waiting in some corner of this world for you. SWEAR TO GOD. YOU DONT NEED THESE heartless PEOPLE.

NOT WORTH.

Cheers

Originally Posted by zeena

See. Honestly, HE IS NOT WORTH.
you v done SO much for him , NO GIRL will do all this in 2012 TRUST ME.
He doesnot DESERVE your love im telling you.
I know its easy for me to type stuff here, and i really understand what situation you are in,but GET OVER IT.
Come on , so much abuse , so much unwanted talks , so much nonsense and he gives a DAMN about this. What on earth ? He expects you to keeep trying and pushing hard stuff and he does NOTHING in the receiving end? WHATS THE WHOLE POINT?
ASK HIM STRAIGHT ON HIS FACE, If he REALLY wants you in his life or not. If he says yes, Ask him to convince his mum , the heartless sister and the brother of him within a month, if not ask him to get out of the family. Im sure he wudnt leave his family for you. BUT YOU? you are ready to do anything , ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. This is NOT how things should go. A relationship should be SHARED btw the two of you. You dont deserve this pain and hurt. You are one awesome woman and there is some EXTREMELY lucky guy waiting for you. GO GET HOLD OF HIM. You deserve to be treated like a princess. cos your parents have brought you up that way. Go give them a hug. talk to them. pour your heart. Take your time. and then go get hold of your prince waiting in some corner of this world for you. SWEAR TO GOD. YOU DONT NEED THESE heartless PEOPLE.

NOT WORTH.

Cheers

Hi Zeena,
I know that I cant get into this relation anymore but his thoughts are not easily removed from my mind. I still question myself that why this relation didnt become positive. In one way, I can say he loved me but he loved his family more than me. I chose a wrong person in life and now I am suffering a lot. But I am sure he will know my values one day. He lost a truthful sincere love. He should answer for my tears one day. But this wound in my life will never be healed even if I die. Thank you so much Zeena for your advice. One thing I realized is We should not show too much of love on anyone because when they move away from us, its very painful...truly very painful.

Originally Posted by Pulkit

Hi,

I went through whatever you wrote above and now I would like you to answer my question : What is the reason that you are so much into this relationship so much so that even after being insulted constantly, you are not ready to leave it ??
Friend, here you need to be practical. You are actually allowing your emotions to dominate over your thinking.

After all that happened with you so far, what do you expect, will Mr. Arun and his family members ever going to be nice with you?? Even if you get married to Arun by hook or crook, will his brother and sisters behave in a way you expecting them to ?? Will you ever get that love and affection from his family members that you ever dreamt of?? Is there any fair chance that things will improve in near future ??

The answer to these questions from my side would be a clear NO. Get practical dear, his family members are making all sort of excuses from refraining you to marry him. First it was on your looks and second was his father's death. By now, you should have understood that his family is not interested in making this relationship happen.

So, on very pure note, I would like you to stop working on it, leave things and move on. Dear, your life is not bound to anyone. Leave the person/family immediately who treats you as an option. Even if you get married to him, all your life you might face their sacarsm. So, what is the point in doing something which will give you no happiness and only sorrow. Get to know, there are deep rooted problems in this relationship. I don't think so, this is a way to judge a person like this.
If before the marriage you are facing such grave insults, then you can very well understand how grave this problem will become after marriage. So, its better to end everything right now and move on. I am saying this because I don't see a point in continuing this relationship any further as it will create more problems for both of you and the families involved. Also, it will end someday. So its better to call it off right now and move out of it with a smile, rather than dragging it for long and eventually ending it due to family pressures. I can't advise you to elope and get married to each other because I dont support that view. Also, I can't advise you to continue it and keep trying for it, because seeing the present situation, I feel it won't work out in future.

So dear friend, end everything now and live your life tension free. Try to move on. Its not the end of life and Mr. Arun is not just the one. Perhaps, life has something better to offer you. Initially it will be difficult but its 100% better than dragging this relationship without any reason.

Dear Pulkit,
Thanks for the advice. I am trying to come out of this pain. I dont need him but he will sure cry thinking of my values one day. When he cries, I will not be beside him anywhere. He lost a pure sincere love.

Originally Posted by Nagalakshmi

Dear Pulkit,
Thanks for the advice. I am trying to come out of this pain. I dont need him but he will sure cry thinking of my values one day. When he cries, I will not be beside him anywhere. He lost a pure sincere love.

Definitely dear, there is no point in dragging a relationship like this when chances of it working out successfully is steep. Instead, break everything right now and try to stop thinking about it. Involve yourself in some other activities of your interests and enjoy life.

Its not about any body mistreating you. You just try sorting the problem on a tbale and even try getting a match making done. Hope it would help a lot.


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your parents are right so arun dont married