Hi,
i am suffering with a problem since 4 years.
I am in love with a guy(at my work location) since 4 years, hez from different caste. I thought of caste before the proposal, but i cudn't resist myself without talking to this guy and our relationship build up very strongly. Basically i am from a middle class family and my parents are my high priority, we live in a small town. I struggled alot to tell my love matter to my parents. my struggle went on for 3 years and finally i told my dad about our love. Initially they didn't say anything but later they asked me to quit my job and they kept me at home for one month. For that one month i didn't even talked to my guy. Finally i bluffed with my parents that i will forget this guy and asked them to send back to my job, i dont know whether i did correct thing or not, but my intention is just to come out of my home and talk to my guy(as i dont even have access to my mobile @ my home).
After coming to my job location i told them that i bluffed with you, i cannot forget that guy. My problem is from the day 1 itself they are thinking of caste itself. they didn't even try to understand what made me to love him alot. They are just asking one thing "That Guy has become your priority than us".
They showed the following reasons for thier rejection
--> His parents will not agree for marriage and they will ill treat you after marriage.
--> they will ask for huge dowry which we can't afford
--> the guy is not looking good
--> the guy is having Manglik dosha in his horoscope.
I tried to give them aswer for all the reasons but they simply rejected all my answers. May be my answers are not satisfactory for them. My guy is in abroad now and he will be coming to talk to my parents. He called my dad and mom twice but literally they were very rude to him.he said he will meet them in person.
In the mean while my parents are planning to assemble my guy's parents, me, my guy and talk to them that they are not at all interested to do the marraige.
I have made a huge mistake by ignoring my parents feelings during this process. i didn't even talk properly with my parents from past 3 months. but i am not finding any different way other than shouting at them, i am getting frustration when they say "You are imagining that you cannot live without this guy, but in actual you can do that by putting little effort, dont try to spoil our name"
I beg you to suggest me something. I cannot live without my guy and hez with same feelings. I am afraid of my future. What ever i am doing now with my parents, i really dont want to do. I thought of convincing them in a very nice way, which they are not allowing me to do. My dad shouts at me when i raise this topic. Some times i am feeling like leaving all these relations and go some where and cry loudly.
Please help me out.
Thank you Very Much Atleast for listening me.
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