My bf was my senior in College and he was after me for about 1.5yrs, but I was never really in love with him, but liked the fact that he was after me. Then he graduated and went to USA. He used to write me, but I didn't reply. After this, slowly we lot touch with each other. Now I used to wonder what was he doing and things like that and started to kinda miss him.
I am from a pretty orthodox family and am supposed to marry someone of my own caste, but my bf is from a different caste. Anyway, since he was persistent for soo long (Almost 7yrs) my parents were ok with me marrying him. But, I didn't want to write a letter and let him know that I wanted to marry because I had never really expressed any interest all these years. So finally my bf wrote a letter from USA saying that he had just graduated and got a job. Now I replied to his letter expressing my love and gave him a phone # to call me.
He called me and we talked romantically for the very first time. I know I was all over him and very much in love. We talked a lot and planned a lot for out future with details about kids, car etc. This went on for a couple of months. By now, my dad had started to force me to get married and I told him about my bf. He wanted his parents to agree to it or else he is seeking a different alliance for me. There was a problem, his parents did agree, because they don't know about me at all. So anyway, my dad made me tell my bf that I cannot wait any longer and I have to get married to someone else. My bf was devastated, but couldn't come to India due to some visa issues.
But in desperation, some how my bf made his dad talk to my dad and me. Things were looking up and I was feeling like I was on cloud 9. Now suddenly I get a letter from his sister saying that the only reason his dad agreed was because my bf said he will leave everything and come to India otherwise. She also went on say that I was in love with her brother only because he was in USA and for his money. She also called me a bitch and things like that. I pretty much broke off with my bf after seeing that letter from his sister.
My bf is extremely upset that I broke it off just based on a letter from my sister. So he wrote me a letter asking me how could I have the heart to marry someone else. Then he went on to say that he hated me from the bottom of his heart and he feels like has lost his wife. That was our last communication. I moved on since then and have married a guy arranged by my parents.
Now my bf is also married, but says that he could never ever take me off his mind. Did I do the wrong thing by not marrying him?